• _number8_@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    i legit avoid stores where the staff are notably friendly and talkative. i just want to get the thing i need, not feel obliged to talk and rude if i’m not in the mood [which is unfortunately often, but still a reality]

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      1 year ago

      Yeah, the US especially is bad in that way.

      And the fact the niceness is clearly forced and fake doesn’t help.

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        1 year ago

        Yep. Servers in the US already have miserable work lives, and having to put on a smile and fake niceness because your take home pay depends on how much you get in tips is just terrible.

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        1 year ago

        In my experience this mostly happens in the burbs. Once you get into the city no one gives a fuck about who you are and just wants you out of their line

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      1 year ago

      I always skip going to restaurants for a while if one of the staff starts recognizing me. It’s like yea that was a nice guy but I don’t really want to be having conversations in the 20 minutes I have to go get lunch and go back to work.

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        Omg are we the same person? I actively avoid bodegas, caus fuck that same person behind the register shit. Much rather go to Walmart, where corporate America has so thoroughly destroyed their workers’ soul that they barely acknowledge your existence.

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    1 year ago

    Introverts and misanthropes are not the same thing, kinda sick of people acting like they are.

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      1 year ago

      I’m not a misanthrope or an introvert. I hate that question because I don’t want to tell people about my shitty day but I also don’t want to lie.

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        1 year ago

        I just have some empty phrases for that purpose, like “It’s going!” or “It sure is a day!”. Feel free to combine with facial expressions that are difficult to interpret for maximum confusion.

        Thing is, it’s smalltalk. Smalltalk serves a purpose and it’s not the acquisition of information, so your concrete answer is kind of vain.
        Smalltalk is rather for getting an emotional feel for each other. It’s the first step towards any sort of interpersonal relationship. And it can also lead to deeper topics, but it doesn’t have to.

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          1 year ago

          No, that definitely isn’t its usual purpose. We do it to soften otherwise mechanical interactions where there is no expectation beyond the exchange of information required to facilitate a transaction.

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        My go to answers are: “I’m hanging in there”, “been better, been worse”, “oh you know how it is”, (if they ask “how’s it going?”) “it’s going”, etc. You can be honest without being candid.

  • 𝘋𝘪𝘳𝘬@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    “No, I have not. I do not categorize days in good or not good days. All days are the same shit, but on some days I care a little less.”