This isn’t about grieving, just assuming the complete absence of your family and all the inheritance.
I’d pay off my medical debt and go back to university. I’m so tired. I just want to learn and stop struggling. I don’t even qualify for my own debt so I have to have it in someone else’s name, being bound to an abuser…
At one point the VA assured me that a veteran’s medical debt is to the government and is not released simply because the veteran passed away.
Even things like the cable bill took months to resolve because we didn’t want to pay for services that weren’t needed after death. (It’s hard to find and cancel every account for someone who died and didn’t keep track of things.)