Since a lot of women have started to call their female friends “girlfriends”, I have to wonder how women with actual girlfriends have been dealing with this lol

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    321·
    9 months ago

    “This is my wife” works real well

    For my girlfriend, I mostly just correct people if they’re mistaken. “Oh we’re more than just friends” type statements.

    • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
      6·
      9 months ago

      Yeah, hate to break it to you, but it isn’t even just women/girls using it for platonic friends. Men/boys are too.

      Not too surprisingly, that hasn’t happened with boyfriend that I’ve run across. Which is kinda fucked up when you consider what the difference in usage represents.

      • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
        6·
        9 months ago

        My grandma talks like that but in my area in my generation it’s generally understood that [gender]friend is romantic and friend isn’t. If gender is relevant it’s “the [genders]”

        That terminology is incredibly frustrating as a lesbian. Especially since it’s regularly used alongside calling my wife my friend despite me repeatedly referring to her as my wife

        • flicker@kbin.social
          5·
          9 months ago

          I understand why this is frustrating and am not trying to take that from you, but thought you’d enjoy knowing that the last old lady who I confronted about calling my girlfriend as my girlfriend (in the platonic sense) was genuinely confused about my irritation, since “isn’t that the best part of having a girlfriend instead of a boyfriend? That they’re also your best friend? I always thought you two really got that part right.”

          It’s some arethestraightsokay stuff (and happened in like 2004) but I thought it might give you a smile.

        • SharkAttak@kbin.social
          4·
          9 months ago

          I heard that violently frenching in front of them would clear any misunderstanding, nuance or misinterpretation.

          “Nope, Mildred, those ain’t gals pals, for sure”