People don’t stop being trans because you disagree with them politically. I despise Jenner and other high profile trans grifters but I’m not shitty enough to deny their identities.

Do better. As a user of both sites this shit is genuinely upsetting. Despite how you may feel about hexbear, how can you claim that they bait people into revealing their internalized transphobia and then turn around and make shitty claims like this? I don’t give a shit if you call me a tankie or red fash or whatever, but I’m trans whether you like me or not.

  • Good Girl [she/they]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
    5·
    10 months ago

    the incident that made this occur was them going out of their way to be offended at being misgendered as “them”, as if they had the upper moral hand to get angry at force of habit.

    That’s not what happened. The admin did it once by accident yes, but after being corrected, he doubled down and blamed the user for being offended in the first place… which you’re now repeating.

    I said good on you for owning up to your bad take, but I’m starting to think you’re not really sorry about saying what you did, you’re just sorry someone shined a light on your behavior.

        • Fal@yiffit.netEnglish
          2·
          10 months ago

          What? The thing you quoted was about the snowe incident

          the incident that made this occur was them going out of their way to be offended at being misgendered as “them”, as if they had the upper moral hand to get angry at force of habit.

          That’s talking about the original snowe incident. Am I not allowed to have an opinion and respond to things you post? Are you confused what thread this is?

          • Good Girl [she/they]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
            1·
            10 months ago

            It’s not “shining a light on behavior”, and there’s nothing to “double down” about. If you accuse someone of transphobia because you’re offended at something totally unreasonable, it’s not that person’s responsibility to apologize or do anything

            ‘Shining a light on behavior’ was referring to the poster I was replying to.

            ‘doubling down’ was referring to the original snowe incident.

            Am I not allowed to have an opinion and respond to things you post?

            When you come in doing the exact thing that snowe originally did to kick this shitfest off, your opinion means jack shit.

            Are you confused what thread this is?

            fuck off lmao

            • Fal@yiffit.netEnglish
              2·
              10 months ago

              Are you confused what thread this is? fuck off lmao

              Was a legitimate question, and basically the exact same thing you accused me of.

              I’m super confused now. My point is you can’t “double down” when you did literally nothing wrong, and characterizing it as “doubling down” is ridiculous.

              Edit: And yes, I used your “shining light on” phrase that was in reference to something else to tie the points together. That there’s nothing to shine a light on

              • Good Girl [she/they]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
                1·
                10 months ago

                I’m super confused now.

                The only salient thing you’ve said so far.

                I didn’t start this thread to re-argue about the programming.dev admin. I started this thread to address my fellow blahaj users’ unsavory behavior.

                Please go away.

                • Fal@yiffit.netEnglish
                  2·
                  10 months ago

                  I didn’t start this thread to re-argue about the programming.dev admin

                  Maybe not, but you’re responding to people, “correcting” them and telling them what did or didn’t happen and implying that someone did something wrong. I’ve been perfectly pleasant in responding to that to disagree with your characterization.

      • Good Girl [she/they]@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
        4·
        10 months ago

        Yeah I’m not exactly sure what happened. I was having (what i thought was) an amicable back and forth with them in DMs and then they sent a single self-destructive message saying they were just going to delete their account.

        • ember@lemmy.ca
          2·
          10 months ago

          It sure did look like they were just digging a deeper and deeper hole in the convo I saw.

          Edit: turns out eternity is just really bad at displaying comments if it goes over the thread limit.

    • Meganium97@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      1·
      10 months ago

      I want to respond but I recognize I dig myself a deeper hole every time I post. I think at this point the best action is to delete my account. I’m gonna reflect. Goodbye.