I feel like I can’t give them the perfect conditions I’d feel a failure. Like most I grew up in bad conditions and absolutely abhor my parents.
On one hand the thought having the knowledge and skills to raise a capable human being is a nice one. On the other there is no guarantee they’d turn out the way I want them to be.
On a second point I am also afraid that I will have to let go of my own life and devote myself to raising them.
A part of me wants to live life. A part of me wants to shape my knowledge into flesh and blood.
I feel this way because I do believe the conditions I grew up in severely limited who I could have become. I’m wishing, if only I was given an optimal environment. I don’t want this for anyone else. If that makes sense.
Sorta related topic to those with fear of raising kids in a dangerous world, when was the world safe to have kids?
Now it’s wild to think about not too long ago, parents would go in with the mindset not all of their children would make it and that was completely normal. Thankfully now (or for now) our kids won’t loose their legs from a disease like polio or a factory accident, so we don’t need to worry about them being in harms way. I think what is happening currently, is the younger generations are at a time where living conditions are starting to go down in the core and that completely shatters our vision of what our kids future would look like.
While a dangerous world won’t stop us from having kids, it’ll take a bit for gen z to get used to the prospect of a dangerous future and especially as we mature into adulthood and away from being terminally online. Also the nuclear family isn’t as embedded in heads as time progresses so it’s hard to say what “families” would look like.
If you feel like you shouldn’t have kids then don’t have kids, its understandable. But don’t be those people who judge others for having children in a dangerous world, cause you and I wouldn’t be here if that was the end all be all decision for humanity.