Oh yeah. Big time. Stems from a broader social anxiety, in my case.

Talking to people is why I’m here so I am the exact opposite

I have the unfortunate distinction of being accustomed to people’s resentment towards me at this point. I am no less timid, but it’s routine now. However, putting myself in another’s shoes, I make clear what you fear is unlike me. There are a million ways to debate the semantics of judgment, but only characterization can stand above the rest.

Yes.

I think I have a mental disorder where if people online are angry at me I actually start introspecting a lot rather than blowing it off. Sometimes I have something I want to say anyway and emotionally prepare to eat it.

If you don’t want to get sucked in, don’t respond. You don’t owe anyone anything on here.

I’ve tried to counter this by cultivating a Russian roulette mindset when opening my replies. Fuck it, open it, we’ll all find out

You can hide the notification icon, and check unread in https://lemmy.ml/inbox when you want to.

Ublock Origin Dashboard -> My filters, add: lemmy.ml##a[href="/inbox"].nav-link

At first I didn’t like the fact that my Lemmy client didn’t support notifications, but it turned out to be the greatest thing about it. It basically helped me cut down on social media time.

Yep, that’s me. When I still actively used reddit, I felt this with every message, was always afraid I was off the mark, or didn’t read the room, or said something wrong or ignorant.

I just turned off notifications and ignored my karma count to just post through it. Though, I usually said things that either never got any votes, or that people seemed to generally agree with. And I was relieved whenever I did notice the numbers going up instead of down, and occasionally worked up the courage to check responses and continue conversations, but usually nothing.

This has really not changed since moving to Lemmy, and really just persists through every website. It sucks, I mostly just don’t comment.

Maybe at work. Getting an email at work means… well, work.

Maybe on a messaging platform with IRL people, but never on somewhere like Lemmy. If anything, I really enjoy seeing that number go up! 59 unreads right now (I never check the box, the only way they go is replies).

I have this with checking emails at work. I hate when I have a new email and don’t know what it’s about to say.

This was a thing on reddit too. Don’t think that Lemmy is immune to group think or even bots intentionally farming divisiveness. If anything, the inconsistent moderation by design makes it even more susceptible.

I try to tell myself to just roll my eyes at pointlessly negative comments, throw it a downvote if I think it’s not contributing anything useful, and move on. Otherwise they’ll drag you to their level and beat you with experience, as it were.

Yes. Mostly people on Lemmy are positive, but every so often some nutsack turns up.

Used to. I realized that the worst that happens is that you pissed off some dickhead who writes bad words to you. You don’t get hurt or die or anything. It’s just some words.