Took a pretty heavy call from a friend this afternoon that is going through a rough time. She had an altercation with some friends in our group which I think set her off into a spiral. I had no idea about any of this. It takes a lot of courage to reach out to someone.
I used to get affected by the same friends too, but then learned to stop putting disappointing people on a pedestal, thinking they do the same, and rely on them for emotional support and wellbeing which was always one way. I made some new friends. I discovered that healthy adult friendships actually exist and instead of being upset about certain behaviours from those people, I learned to pity that behaviour. I hope she learns this too.
so many many hugs
it was a very sad day for me when I realised my family of origin would never be a support . I went non contact because of abuse, and my husband’s family? I will do nothing for them anymore other than grunt oh noes when they tell sad tales. I am lucky to have a few people in my life I can rely on and I think that’s what it’s like. In life we only get a few people.
I’m learning that lesson myself. It’s tough, but good to know there’s light at the end of the tunnel.
I used to get affected by the same friends too, but then learned to stop putting disappointing people on a pedestal, thinking they do the same, and rely on them for emotional support and wellbeing which was always one way.
Big hugs. Relate to that so very painfully. I still feel pangs of sadness over the loss of an entire friend circle over covid; I shared lots of values and experiences with them and we had lots of great times, but I could’ve kicked myself for being so reliant on them for that support/wellbeing when it turns out that they were supremely unwilling/unable to show up in the ways that mattered most when the chips were down.
It was impossible to have an honest conversation because they would beat themselves up in a show of contrition and shame but not actually acknowledge any issues and work on them (or anticipate them better). I know a lot of that is a trauma response from them but after a certain point it just wasn’t healthy to be around any more and I couldn’t handle continuing to be the only one willing to forgive and accommodate.
I’m still in the phase of not really having made any new friends on that level, though I certainly have strengthened my friendship with a couple of other rock-solid people in my life and it’s made me so much more grateful for them.
Hard relate. I’ve learned to try and be happy in my own company rather than deal with that, but humans are a social animal and those behaviours are so pervasive
What a frickin dumpster fire. The EBU f’ed up hard. Also so much for not politicising Eurovision, Israel got over 300 points with one of the worst songs of the night! in the same 24 hours it warns of inceasing its bombing campaign in Rafa. I just…… I don’t even have words here. What the f is going on in the world.
There’s also the CNN article on the Israeli whistleblowers. Massive trigger warnings for detainment and torture if you look that up. Cripes.
And yet still in the Un. Still invited to Eurovision. Netanyahu Could behead a baby on national tv and so long as he says it was a “terrorist” Biden would still suck his dick.
UN won’t kick you out for being a genocidal dick, you want dicks to retain UN membership so everyone can yell at them - it’s a place where everyone uses their words instead of nukes
UN won’t kick you out for being a genocidal dick, you want dicks to retain UN membership so everyone can yell at them - it’s a place where everyone uses their words instead of nukes
With respect, if thats the plan its a shit one. Sure, no one has dropped the hammer yet, but aint done shit all for the suffering.
The purpose of the UN is to get people talking in a room, as opposed to standing on opposite sides of the battlefield. To try and talk it out.
It’s not perfect. nothing involving humans is. People seem to think it’s like World Police but it’s not.
The purpose of the UN is to get people talking in a room,
till one of the permanent members of the security council use their veto anyway.
People seem to think it’s like World Police but it’s not.
But hear me out, what if it was? Syria. Ukraine. Palestine/Israel. Georgia. Somalia. Civilians dead under the current system. I get nothings perfect, but fuck man we gotta do better than this.
The veto only applies to security council, not geberal assembly and is a bit of a two edged sword.
But in regards to world police? You’re trying to use a drill as a hammer. It’s not designed for that.
Ok, UN as a world police. How does that work? What actions do they take now?
Ah but Eurovision isn’t political. Those bombings? Not our problem. Oh, people are upset at Israel? We’Re NoT pOlItIcAl REEEEEEE!
Ah but Eurovision isn’t political. Those bombings? Not our problem. Oh, people are upset at Israel? We’Re NoT pOlItIcAl REEEEEEE!
Palestine isn’t a participant. So I guess in a sense “not their problem”? but booting out the Dutch…? Maaaaan.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the Dutch didn’t participate next year. Joost was my pick too 😭
Interesting! I wanted Croatia or Austria.
Nah, I reckon they’ll just send him again. Given the EBU the real middle finger. Tipping theres gonna be some pretty damning interviews given over the next couple of weeks against the EBU anyway.
Saw little butters today for an mday event. Little man chooses his battles.
How has Butters been?
Butty booiiii ugh so handsome want to skritch. Wish his humans were nicer
😍He is beautiful!
For fucks sake. Our fire alarms randomly went off. I was on the dunny half asleep. Nothing’s on fire. There are cobewebs around the fire alarm that’s going off, so my guess is that something’s moved in to it and is triggering the sensor. This actually happened at my last place, although at a much more reasonable hour.
Our alarms are a lot worse than regular alarms in regular houses. They’re all wired in series, so once one goes off, they all go off. It is controlled by a commercial style Pannell, but the best that can do for us is making it shut up for 8 minutes. After that it can be retriggered. We can’t just take it off the roof, A because we’d be in a fair bit of shit, but B because it’s bolted onto the roof and has several wires feeding into it anyways.
We can call the fire alarm company to replace it, but they won’t get here for several hours. Several hours while we’re meant to be asleep…
E: We tried vacuuming out any dust, in case that’s what was causing it but no dice. Fire panel people have been called. No clue how long they’ll be
E2: fire people reckon they’ll be here within an hour
E3: they came out quite quickly to fix it, which honestly wasn’t my experience in the past. Apparently nothing moved in, it just happened to go faulty. I blame the sun farts. In any case he took it off the roof and somebody will come tomorrow to replace it. A bit under 2 hours from it going off til it was fixed, which was honestly a good response time. Lovely bloke they sent too. He’s on call so we pulled him out of his slumber, so at least we aren’t alone in our suffering 😂
E4: also he called me back at 12:59, so he was here in under an hour
I missed the aurora the first time, going out briefly and too late, then forgot last night. Oh well. It’s not really safe to hang around outside at night and I wouldn’t have been able to see much.
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I wish to order a cure for Mondays
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Leftovers with some extra cheese thanks
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Have awoken to a kitchen covered in stir fry. Unwisely thought the lid would be enough to stop FishyCat getting into it. Hopefully he doesn’t end up peeing rocks from that snack.
A true hunter in your midst
He was a street cat before we got him, so fuck knows what he was hunting up to eat. Needs to stick to his prescription biscuits now! Wish you could explain to them.
Mine “accidentally” stole a small of piece of chicken off my plate that was seasoned with garlic and now she’s nuts for it.
No Gibson, garlic will kill you. Doesn’t seem to sink in
I recommend getting 1/4 chicken and chips. Skin and chips for thee, rest tithed to the lord
Er, in my experience the Vet saying buy the cat a rotisserie chicken translates to ‘it’s terminal’.
I’ve woken up and come to work and forgot my ID pass, hopefully I don’t get locked out of the building today.
Also my body is broken from the weekend furniture moving.
5 mins to have coffee and enjoy it before I have to be outside, argh!
Alrighty. Off to an interview as “Simon”. Here we go.
Good luck Simon
Simple as Simon can be, he does well in interviews lol
Remember to talk about coffee, Bunnings sausages, your lawn and how you love the tv show MAFS if you really wanna sell the “white boring dude thing”.
Mate did you see the eagles get absolutely THRASHED by the pies yesterday?!
“did you see that ludicrous display last night?!”
My head is so sore from last night. Those damn smoke alarms. I am pretty sure the ones we have are loud enough to cause hearing damage. I guess it have the neighbour with the car alarm a taste of his own medicine though, so there’s that
There’s set standards about how loud fire alarms must be to be compliant. It’s meant to be really loud and piercing because it’s supposed to wake people up and be something that’s hard to ignore. Often people have been saved because neighbours heard the alarm. Not fun if you have to listen to it for extended period of time though. Hope you feel a bit better today and that your arm settled down too.
I believe ours are actually louder than standard residential alarms, which is what I was getting at. At least in all the houses I’ve been at with just regular standalone battery operated alarms, they aren’t anything as loud as ours. Although all of them going off at once probably doesn’t help
Thank you, my arm is feeling a lot better today. I thought I’d have a gnarly bruise, but it’s just a little red and that’s it.
Mimi is such a brave little kitty.
Yesterday, wifey noticed that Mimi seemed to be winking a lot. After some further inspection, she noticed that one of Mimi’s eyelids was swollen.
So today, Mimi went on a big trip to the vets to see Dr Paul.
Dr Paul took a look at her eye, and thankfully there’s no scratches on her eyeball.
Because it’s one eye that was swollen, it’s unlikely to be an allergic reaction, and our babies are all indoor cats.
Most likely, it was that some individual — who may or may not be named Spunky or Snowy — got a little rough while playing with Mimi overnight.
After an anti-inflammatory injection and some eyedrops, Miss Mimi was sent home.
She’s now happily playing in a box.
I told you there would be fisticuffs over that box.
@CEOofmyhouse56 @ajsadauskas@lemmy.ml You were correct.
Poor Mimi 😿
Get well soon Miss Mimi ♥
@CEOofmyhouse56 She was so brave when I took her down to see Dr Paul though.
Sat still while Dr Paul weighed her, did the eye drops, and gave her an injection.
He was very impressed.
No way would I be that brave in the same circumstances 😂
hugs,
She is a good puss.
@Seagoon_ @ajsadauskas@lemmy.ml Thank you 😊
The good news is that she got home and had dinner and a bit of a play. Hopefully, after a couple of days of eye drops, she makes a full recovery 😸
Sweet Mimi, such a good puss. 😍 Wishing her a healthy recovery 💜💜
Got some pretty cool shots of the aurora on Saturday night, hand held with my phone, standing in my partners backyard in Reservoir!!! What a crazy experience :)
it was a surprise to see it from the suburbs, but I nearly died of shock when my dogshit iphone managed a pretty decent pic. the poor thing doesnt even have a night mode or long exposure, it was a hell of an ask for “auto” mode.
It went ok I think. They didn’t react negatively to “Simon”. But we’ll see how it plays out.
Was good practice anyway!
Good work! did you bring up last nights massive revelation on “farmer wants a root” to sell it? I assume there was a massive revelation anyway.
I may have stretched my Aussie accent out a bit further than normal. Only slightly though.
“yeah nahh yeah”?
Maaaaaate 👍
Onya Simmo!
Fantastic! Seriously should be proud of yourself! 💜 Make sure to treat yourself as well, you deserve it!
I’m about to enjoy my afternoon Nanna nap and playing with Gibson. Perfect combo lol
Love getting into work and there’s a mystery bottle of vodka waiting on my desk. Sign of the week to come?
You either have an admirer or an enemy. 🤔
TinyCat is off to the vet. He chucked again this morning, that makes it 4 times in a week. He’s also alternates between velcro-kitty and antagonist way more than usual. Suspect something is going on with him.
