No real fun in the past few months, but I’ve been having interesting conversations with my queer acquaintances. A surprising number of people are ace. Celibacy makes me sad, and I’m starting to see the point of stuff like Grindr/Scruff/Recon. The trouble is that I’d really like to bottom for younger boys, and at the same time I need the emotional/sexual security that comes with a long-term relationship. So many people have never even done anal and are only “queer” in the sense of bicurious or whatever. I’m 31, I’m past that shit, and I’m seriously not happy in my own skin and need that external stimulus to get past my own complexes, and it’s damaging to be alone for too long for real.
Where you are matters I guess. I have many younger boys who want to top/flip for me. But some of them are too young for me, like 19 lol. Recon seems kind of intense, and even Grindr can be a lot for me. Scruff has good guys that you can know a bit before you get in bed for some fun. Would that be enough? It sounds like maybe you’re looking for some fwbs.
Friends with benefits and romance. Ideally, I’d like openly queer and kinky partners who are openly queer and kinky everywhere and don’t try to hide it, and for those relationships to last, and if they don’t I need valid reasons why not. Maybe even marriage one day.
In terms of Recon being intense, I very much need that BDSM dynamic. I don’t have to call him “master” when we’re at a coffee shop because that might be weird for the other guests, but I’ve been a part of the kink scene for a while and see no reason to hide it. 19 can be too young depending on their level of experience. I dated a 19-year-old transgirl a few years ago who was more mature than I am now. Of course, the hillbilly community college crowd has a mental age of about 10. It’s hell here.
I don’t mean to complain. I very much want a hardcore sadist partner or two who participate in the community, and if 10% of the population fits the description then everyone I know is playing coy.
No real fun in the past few months, but I’ve been having interesting conversations with my queer acquaintances. A surprising number of people are ace. Celibacy makes me sad, and I’m starting to see the point of stuff like Grindr/Scruff/Recon. The trouble is that I’d really like to bottom for younger boys, and at the same time I need the emotional/sexual security that comes with a long-term relationship. So many people have never even done anal and are only “queer” in the sense of bicurious or whatever. I’m 31, I’m past that shit, and I’m seriously not happy in my own skin and need that external stimulus to get past my own complexes, and it’s damaging to be alone for too long for real.
Where you are matters I guess. I have many younger boys who want to top/flip for me. But some of them are too young for me, like 19 lol. Recon seems kind of intense, and even Grindr can be a lot for me. Scruff has good guys that you can know a bit before you get in bed for some fun. Would that be enough? It sounds like maybe you’re looking for some fwbs.
Friends with benefits and romance. Ideally, I’d like openly queer and kinky partners who are openly queer and kinky everywhere and don’t try to hide it, and for those relationships to last, and if they don’t I need valid reasons why not. Maybe even marriage one day.
In terms of Recon being intense, I very much need that BDSM dynamic. I don’t have to call him “master” when we’re at a coffee shop because that might be weird for the other guests, but I’ve been a part of the kink scene for a while and see no reason to hide it. 19 can be too young depending on their level of experience. I dated a 19-year-old transgirl a few years ago who was more mature than I am now. Of course, the hillbilly community college crowd has a mental age of about 10. It’s hell here.
I don’t mean to complain. I very much want a hardcore sadist partner or two who participate in the community, and if 10% of the population fits the description then everyone I know is playing coy.