Buying tiny thinkcentres like the m710q.
It’s the best ever bang for the buck for almost anything except gaming. IMO of course.
Two DDR4 slots, an ssd Plus a 2.5drive.
Mint runs perfektly.
USB 3, some 6 of them IIRC.
Super silent.
You can get one for like 40€ or the double for a quad core.
Plug in two screens and just hack away.
🥰
The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It’s basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don’t just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.
Watched my gramma slip into “i can’t change the channel on the tv with a remote that only has 2 buttons” from can you fix the vcr (press the tv/video button) again
I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you’d have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.
This was “an upgrade”
Now imagine if you are 85. I do not understand why companies make change for the sake of change.
Overthinking everything and being a “perfectionist”. So hard to finish or even start doing anything.
Shoot for getting about 70% right. That is about where the rest of the world ends up too. And the world is still turning. No need to drive yourself nuts doing the impossible.
right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Job hunting is so extraordinarily awful that I guarantee you I will overstay my welcome when I’m working for my next abusive and micromanaging boss.
Biting my nails
I bit my nails my whole life. One day I tasted lime. I hadn’t eaten anything with lime for 3 days. I had wiped my ass maybe 10 minutes prior. That experience yucked me out of biting for good. Been over 2 years now since I’ve so much as nibbled.
Ok so game plan: eat some limes, wait three days, take a shit, profit
But seriously, though, thank you for this story. It will be difficult not to think of this every time I bite my nails now.
Taking Ambien. I’d never sleep again though because of my other meds.
Does the Ambien work for you? Does it have negatives for you? Have you tried other stuff? Husband, son, and i all tried it and hated it. Husband now uses trazadone. I use CBN. Son worked to improve his general health.
Yes it works, the side effects are amazing. I have a friend who decoupaged her dishwasher with New York City subway maps on it, and I myself catfished a prominent white supremacist into sending me penis pictures and then hosted a spontaneous antifa meeting discussing it. You really get disinhibited.
My son stumbled downstairs and outside in an ice storm wearing only pajama pants.
I think one day it might be pulled from the market. It also affects memory. But I wouldn’t sleep for years without it. Hope your son was ok.
Agree. I talked to a guy a few years ago at a cannabis convention who thought cbn would be the next big sleep med after rescheduling. It was a good experience with the kid. We thought he was using illegal drugs, so finding out that he took 30 Ambien in 10 days was helpful.
That must have been WILD.
Do you get crazy dreams? I sleep fine but almost never dream, and heard. Ambien gives you wild dreams and have always wanted to take it specifically for the dreams lol
It’s not so much the dreams, it’s the loony things I do on it. One night I hosted a whole antifa meeting in my group where we talked extensively about a very famous white supremacist we catfished into sending me penis pictures and I was high as a kite the whole time.
Eating Slim Jims.
Hating the state of the union.
I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I’m so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I’m working on it, it’s just very difficult
“Perfectionism is shame leaving the body.” - The Daily Llama
But seriously, I think the majority of perfectionism is rooted in childhood shame. That comes from family that was overly critical, so we attempted to address it by being perfect. Maybe try messing things up in a safe manner on purpose to behaviorally teach yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes.
Worrying what other people think of me.
I know I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to.Exactly! even when they don’t care enough to remember me.
Thinking about a selfish heartless cunt.
I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that
To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I’ve probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I’m sure someone didn’t forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.
Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.
Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can’t afford to move.
I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something
Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.
Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.
There’s almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It’s just kind of rotting away. There’s currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.
Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk “legally” takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.
In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don’t mind stopping a few cars.
Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard
Dude, same. On top of that, I also struggle with imposter syndrome and a work for a company with a burnout culture, which a recipe for constantly kicking your own ass for not having literally everything done always, so I force myself to try to be “productive” the whole time, which always, ALWAYS backfires, but the guilt from watching everyone else work themselves to death is just too much. I’m hoping to switch to a remote job with a company who values employee wellbeing over “the grind” soon though.
Where you’re at now sounds particularly bad, but having worked fully remotely for a few years myself, it definitely isn’t guaranteed to be better for your work-life balance. It’s difficult to separate the two spheres for one thing, and you can still end up in a situation where you may get requests, messages and pings come through at any time, constantly.
I’ve worked for roughly half a dozen employers so far. In my experience an employer may SAY they value employee work-life balance, that’s no guarantee they actually will. They may also genuinely believe they prioritise it, but still fall hugely short of what other employers can offer.
Fuck burnout culture though. Also fuck teams that celebrate “heroes”
Same. Idike to tone it down to 32h/week or even better 24h/week. So 8, respectively 6 hours a day for four days. Working for a non-profit organisation and even though we a trade agreement, because we’re unionised, living in a city on my own I couldn’t pay the bills if I’d cut hours.
It’s kind of funny. When I’m working on my own stuff, I could easily dump like 60+ hours a week into it. But once there’s an obligation to work on something, especially if it’s scheduled, 40 is unbearable.
Yep, my experience exactly. It’s mostly because I can define my own hours when working for myself. But also - When I’m working for someone else there’s also a nagging feeling that I’m pissing away my life force if I go as much as a single hour over.
Can you go for walks or something to help break up the day
Yes and in fact I do. Unfortunately it doesn’t help with the sense of “rigidity” of the schedule and how draining it is
Worrying. Anxiety sucks…
