Sure, “nice” needs some definition.
But that’s your call. I’m asking you if you are a nice person.
Everyone claiming to be nice is living a lie and ignoring that everything everyone does ever is essentially motivated by their own self-interests.
Recognizing that makes it a hell of a lot easier to deal with people and avoid buying into the forced bullshit that attempts to force itself into every aspect of life.
I do nice things for other people when I’m up to it, but I hesitate to call myself a ‘nice person’ because niceness isn’t necessarily an intrinsic quality, in the same way that I can be a transient dumbass at times without thinking of myself as an idiot.
probably? I feel like it would make more sense to ask someone else if I was nice (assuming you want an accurate response), given I might be a little biased.
Nice to a fault. I think it’s because I try to be the person I always wish I would have had access to because I’ve never really had any support from anyone.
I, the same way. I’m in a pretty outspoken city, but I’m a bit more of a just give in and avoid having to yell at people person. I can get upset and yell when need be, but I don’t employ that tactic unless I lose my cool. Otherwise, I’m overly amenable and very much of the mindset “they’re probably having a tough day” or “it’s not really worth it/this doesn’t really affect me more than my slight disappointment.” And then I just get over it. Or sometimes I’ll think more about it later and wish I acted differently, but right now I can’t really think of a time where that happened, so did it really matter in the long run that I didn’t push harder for myself?
This is all ironic because my face doesn’t usually seem like the face of a nicer person. I grew up with rbf, mainly because I spent my teen years very angry about everything.
I like to think so. I put a lot of effort into trying to be someone I would want to be friends with, and there are times I slip up of course, but generally I think of myself as someone who is nice.
I have some very serious mood swings. Generally, I’m pretty nice. But if I’m in a bad mood, I turn into a very rude person.
Wow, I really need therapy, don’t I?
Don’t we all.
Maybe you’re right.
Nope. I actually never want to be described as nice.
Fair, though? Yes, I would like to think that I am fair.
Nope. I’m thinking of taking acting classes or something because I try to be nice and it doesn’t come across that way at all.
Other people seem to think so, but I am not any nicer on the outside than on the inside, not unfailingly polite and certainly get defensive sometimes.
So I am going to say yes because what’s on the outside is what I feel in the inside, and people think I am nice.
A lot of people in this thread appear to be pretty hard on themselves. There seems to be a trend of people who want to be nice, are trying to be nice, but don’t see themselves as nice. If that sounds like you, then I’ve got some good news for you:
You are a nice person.
If you’re sincerely making the effort to be a better person then that’s admirable. Self improvement is hard. Too often people are quick to judge based on the result of your actions rather than the effort that’s put into them. To put it another way, we judge people by their actions but judge ourselves by our intentions.
Treat yourself to the niceness that you’re trying to show to other people. You’re doing the best you can. You’re trying to be a nicer person which means you’re trying to grow. From tiny seedlings grow mighty oaks, and the seedling shouldn’t be shamed for starting its journey. Rather, it should be encouraged to keep growing.
If you find it difficult to be nice, but you’re trying to be a nice person, I’d say that’s a lot nicer than being the person who dismisses another for not being ‘nice’ enough.
I think so. I’m kind and caring, I have really great friends who wouldn’t be if I wasn’t also a genuinely good person.
I haven’t always been but I always tried to be. For a long time I was really chaotic and had some personal issues that made it hard for me to like actually follow through with it. But I worked on myself a lot and I continue to. I still fuck up and I’m sure there’s people who think I’m a dick. But for the most part I’m a nice, kind person
No. I know people who are genuinely nice, and I don’t compare to that. I am, for the most part, trying to be a very relaxed person though, and my benign apathy has sometimes been described as “nice”.
Yes, I try to be. I can’t be an asshole, I feel really bad about it. I have had to be the cruel person and the liar a handful of times, and I hate to do it. But it is what it is. I look at someone like Elon Musk as the embodiment of a “terrible person” and do the opposite of him.
I am definitely not a narcissist, I am definitely not self-centered, and I am definitely not cruel.
I’m nice to service workers. I am not nice to people on the freeway. Take from that what you will.
Kind. I try to be a kind person. Sometimes I fail. Too many people argue the being “nice” is merely a superficial term.
