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Save your farts for when they’re close by.
But seriously…
Romans 12:20 NIV “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
I don’t think that means you will harm them, but that you will cause them to bake in their own anger.
Worrying about what others think will keep you from having bliss.
Be direct in communication when needed, otherwise just don’t.
Thanks yea being direct is important for sure.
Kill them with kindness. Be direct and to the point, but make them hate you more because you’re too nice. That way, if they want to talk shit about you, all they can say is that you’re too nice.
As someone else mentioned, if you screwed up, make amends, then the kindness thing.
Do they dislike me for no good reason? If yes: fuck them, I’m awesome!
Do they dislike me because I did something dumb? Let’s talk and let me appologise if I cocked something up for you. My intentions are rarely malicius.
This let’s me live a happy life knowing I didn’t ruin anyone’s day and ignore the rest.
Agreed.
Because of my kind nature it isn’t very often that people dislike me or have a problem with me.
When they do it’s always the same story for 99% of other people. So they just don’t get along with anyone. Can’t people please them all…
Have you considered that you’re a people pleaser? Being kind and nice is good, but do you do that in detriment of yourself? Can you say no to favors?
Stop caring. There is nobody you could be that will please everybody, and if there was…there’d be nothing of you left as you morphed to fit the situation and company around you. Just be yourself and ignore their passive aggressive BS or avoid if possible.
(yes, it is that simple but still harder than it sounds. Ask yourself “Do I need to give a shit about this?” and the answer will usually be no.)
Kick their ass, is the most effective way.
Don’t.
They don’t have to like you and it’s okay that they don’t. Don’t take it personally. Unless of course you’re an asshole.
Just to not underestimate anything they do when it comes to impact.
If you have to interact with them, make it as minimal as possible. Otherwise just blank them out; ignore them, don’t look at them, don’t talk to them, don’t notice them.
Minimize interactions, stay professional, be polite.
A somewhat cheesy quote that helped me a lot is “you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, but some people just don’t like peaches”. I used to try way too hard to be likeable and I agonised over people who didn’t like me.
There was an instance of a colleague being rude and unprofessional to me, and under the framework of “they don’t like me and that’s why they’re being unkind”, it put the onus on me to change, which wasn’t reasonable. It should be possible for people to not like each other in a working relationship while still being respectful and productive.
Don’t spend time with them unless you have to.
At work? Tell them „I know you don’t like me, I don’t like you either, but let’s just be professional here and then go on with our lives“
That would be my plan B. Plan A would be turn up my politeness and niceness knobs up for a little while. Maybe they’re going through a rough time and it’s temporary. After a sufficient amount of time to ensure it’s not an anomaly, then go for the direct conversation. It usually pays off to give the other person the benefit of the doubt for a little bit, but not forever. It stopped me from being so reactive.
