Perhaps I’ve had the wrong attitude about the server needing to be reliable, data loss importance, and crashes causing all the front-ends to look bad, etc

When I step back and study the history of Microsoft vs. Apple. the “open hardware” approach of Microsoft proved to be abandoned.

Apple always had the best loyalty by NOT offering hardware choice to their customers. and Linux, which offered the most hardware choices of all, was even less popular.

Apple knew people didn’t like to pay money for software, so they were an operating system company who packaged it with hardware.

I know project developers like Lemmy do not get good money. Maybe I have been far too harsh on them ignoring PostgreSQL crashes and should just face up that the Lemmy community, the users of Lemmy, think it is all perfectly fine.

32 cores of CPU to run a server without all that much content, it bothered me a lot to see the money being spent like that and to witness server crashing. But there are people here who seem to actually enjoy all of it. It makes the fight against Big Reddit and Big Twitter seem more dramatic.

If you look at how Hollywood productions are run in terms of expenses for sets, clothes, shooting locations - it can be millions of dollars for 90 seconds of a movie. Because it’s in the sphere of social media, films are social.

Perhaps I’ve been the wrong kind of fool and their approach to just allow crashes and not treat it like an important production server - is actually intuitive to how social projects of “taking on the big guys” works.

If it was closed-source paid-for software, crashes would be an issue to challenge. But with open source, they seem to have taken the attitude that anyone can fix it - so not their problem. They really emphasized to me what they mean by “supported”. And if lemmy.ml is their idea of a “supported” server, I should take it as reality and give up any idea I have that easily-fixed crashes are important. It’s product defining.

It was hard for me to come to terms with.

I should have stuck to topics like ChatGPT, Neil Postman, Marshall McLuhan.