Hello,
this might sound like a lie or a Letter to Penthouse, but I’m in a situation I’ve never thought to get in and I’m just a bit flabbergasted on how to proceed.
EDIT: Since English is not my First language and I lack the skill to keep this coherent without names,
Let’s say my fiancé’s Name is Lara.
And the Name of the female friend of mine is Nami.
Everything started when Nami came to visit me and Lara to celebrate Lara’s Birthday with us and our friends. Since Nami lives on the other side of the country, she came to stay a whole week with us.
We live near the Beach, so we went there and spent the day. I still have no Idea how we started talking about this, but we started talking that I (m) had no Problem if Lara would kiss another Girl. The conversation continued and she said she would like to experiment with me and another Girl.
Since Nami is in an open relationship with her significant other, we started jokingly talking about this.
Last night, Lara and I talked even more about this. And we agreed that Nami would be the only person (at the moment) with whom we could even think about doing something like this. So because we are cowards and haven’t done anything like this ever, we send her a Text message. (She was literally across the hallway in our living room). She said she somewhat expected something like this and said she will think about it. To be clear, we just want to start slow and I see what is okay to do and what not.
Lara is demisexual, and Nami is also not opposed to Girls (I forgot the correct Terminology, sorry ._.).
I have literally NO Idea what might come and I could REALLY need some advice. Do I just keep rolling with it and see what happens? Or should I do something?
Please don’t give me any “Frat bro”-type of advice, I’m not a Chad or anything. I’m a chubby dude who somehow managed to get a beautiful girl to fall in Love with me. I had sex with only two women ever (multiple times, though), so I know how to have Sex but this would be a HUGE step out of my known territory.
I’ve known Nami for more than 10 years and had a long time crush on her.
And I love Lara with all my heart.
Think into the future: if you do something today, then what will be tomorrow?
I assume everybody wants to stay friends tomorrow. Is this more important than trying out things one time? Then act accordingly.
Talk about it openly. Start any action only if everybody is OK with it. If things are fun for 2 of you, but not for the third one, then it is better to stop.
Honestly, most time when someone says that, it means “No, but I’m afraid to say it clearly”
I’m pretty sure things would not change that much. Nami is quite an open person about things like that. Afaik, she even done things like that in the past.
I’m not worried about what would happen afterwards, I’m more unsure what will happen before and during it.