No, but I wouldn’t rule someone out because of it as long as they were respectful
Wild people rule out others based on religion. I don’t give af as long as they’re good people
It can be a big issue if the lean a little harder into religion and start thinking they need to save your soul.
That’s why I say good people. Good people respect others religions and don’t try to force feed them theirs
What’s wrong with wanting to share the same values, and to live in the same reality as your partner?
It’s easy enough to find a religious person who’s nice, but a shared reality is basically impossible if you really believe in science.
I guarantee you that there are things you think are for real that aren’t. So to disregard shared values for sake of a specific one of these things is…interesting. May your ex’s continue with their good fortune.
ha, naw. i couldnt be with someone who believes in nonsense
Yes. I became an atheist after we’d been married for several years. It made for a bit of a rough time until we settled into the new status quo.
I can’t wait to get to the point where the status quo isn’t rough.
If you don’t mind me asking, were kids in the mix? It’s been rough anyways, but kids are certainly making it much more so.
Thankfully no kids in the mix. I can imagine how that complicates things.
Yes, she’s wiccan, but certainly not pushy about it.
No, that is a deal breaker for me.
I’d consider it, but if they’re serious about it, I’m sure they wouldn’t love the way I look at them when they explain how well their spell/saint’s toe is working.
No, I don’t think that would work for me.
Fuck no 😂
My wife is religious. I’m sure what to say about it. It’s a non issue in our lives. She thinks what she wants. I think what I want. Kids were a little tricky, but we worked through it. They got introduced to the idea of religion when they were younger and I made no bones about not believing and we agreed they could decide for themselves. AFAIK they are both atheist but who knows when they experience significant loss - a lot of people turn to religion then. The older kids from her first marriage are all believers I think but also pretty casual I think. I think my oldest married an atheist, but the truth is I just don’t have reason to talk about religion or lack thereof with anyone.
You guys have partners?
Yes but she doesn’t go to church often, she convinced me to come with once and it took me from being an atheist who isn’t opposed to Christianity to being fully convinced that it’s just a worldwide cult
Lol, what kind of church did you go to? Was it just the singing and slideshow kind, or were they doing something more hardcore?
None of that it was just one of the Easter sermons and they were telling a story about jesus, the way they said he always referred to himself as god just felt like it was some sort of heavens gate situation
Yeah, I’ve been out of the church long enough I can hear it now. They all start as a weird cult, and in this case a weird death cult that chose a torture device as their symbol, and were the first recruiting religion to actively shit on everyone else’s religion (AFAIK).
You didn’t actually specify the denomination, but Catholic cannibalism and the various denominations that do rights in dead languages are also fun. Coptics even do it facing the wall. Evangelicals try and make it slick and modern, at least, although it’s a matter of taste if that’s better or worse.
Sacrificing virgins
Catholic masses are extremely cult-like. There’s a choreographed stand/sit/kneel dance, “everybody please give us money” phase, plus a part where everyone lines up to eat their unappetizing snack.
And they speed kids through the initiation process so that they are “committed” before high school, when they might start thinking for themselves.
I don’t understand how anyone can look at that religion and not immediately see that it’s mostly a power grab dressed up as a salvation from inherited sins that were made up in the first place. And then later, it’s, “Hey yeah, you’ll get into heaven, just tell us all the dirt on you!”
As someone with heavy exposure to the evangelical protestant side of things, I have to respect the up-frontness, at least. They have canon law, which can’t be re-interpreted on the whim of whatever local priest to suit politics, the churches don’t pretend to be rec centers, and the priests dress like priests instead of like politicians or car salesmen.
The vagaries of Protestantism allow for a lot of weasel wording and charismatic personalities taking advantage of people - especially really poor people. The Catholic Church hierarchy has 1500 years of well-documented corruption, but I don’t think they have people today running ads promising that every donation towards Pastor McSlimy’s private jet will produce a large financial return through magical means, with staged testimonies suggesting people should forgo essential medical care to donate.
The “grass is always greener on the other side”, though.
My parents are that way, dad is an atheists and mom is a christian that doesn’t actively attend any church (and hasn’t in decades).
Yup. It’s never been an issue
My partner still believes but sees the BS in religion. I feel she just can’t say she is atheist. We met after our kids were adults and out of the house. My kids are atheists though I never discussed religion with them. Her son is atheist and her daughter probably doesn’t believe (from our conversations) but is raising her kids Catholic because it is important to her husband who was raised in a very religious household.
I’m vegan (24 years) and my wife is not. That doesn’t bother me, but I couldn’t handle it if she was religious.
I find it so cool that you’ve been vegan for 24 years, as a younger vegan (7 years) I thank you for suffering through groceries with one brand of soy milk and maybe some tofu (if you’re lucky) so that we can live in this world were I have access to vegan fudgesicles at the local grocery store.
I’m curious though, because veganism has definitely been a point of contention in my past few relationships; how do you and your wife manage meals? Do you do separate meals, or is it more of a “she’s vegan at home” type situation?
For sure being vegan has gotten a lot easier since I started. At home, I’m very lucky that she does most of the cooking. Sometimes she eats what she makes for me, other times she makes herself something separate. I wash the dishes to my own standards, so I don’t worry about “contamination” except for a few things: cutting board, frying pan.
Being (or being with) a vegan can be super inconvenient at times. After all these years (married for 21), we are super well-adjusted to it.
We had a family with multiple vegans, a vegetarian and a meat eater and the cooking was super inconvenient. Also because of the separate pots and pans. But at some point everyone just got used to it.
Sounds pretty inconsiderate of the meat eater to force the rest to handle corpses instead of just eat their meal
