I used to subscribe to r/gaymers and there are a few things like thirst posts, LFGs, same-gender fan art, meetups, events, news, etc. Idk, But I guess it used to be more relevant back in the day when certain gay interactions were initially made available like same-gender romance in The Sims and Dragon Age which was a huge deal and gave plenty to talk about. I was also hoping that Lemmy would give it its own flavor.

but plenty of gay stuff is talked about in regular gaming communities

Yeah, that’s a double-edged sword! It’s awesome that Lemmy is more accepting, and creating the community did feel redundant, but sometimes I just want to be all-out gay which some people find off-putting and it’s also intimidating for me to Perform the Gayness out in the open like that because it’s unhinged nonsense to outsiders that we find hilarious.