I’ve seen that the insance owner has a whitelist and blacklist for their instance, but say that I make an instance of my own and want to federate.
Must each and every instance owner manually add me to the whitelist, or is there some kind of public database where I can add my insance and automatically be added to everyone’s whitelist?
I was trying to find one but couldn’t so I came here, I can cross-post it if needed.
This is basically what I don’t understand, how would they federate with me if they don’t know I exist? Would I have to ask a big instance to federate with me first and then the rest would find me from there perhaps?