• Soup@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    There’s nothing wrong with you, it can be a hard thing to do when you know the person/people so intimately.

    I remember when I left a thanksgiving dinner because some people were being shitty. I got chinese food, talked to an old guy about motorcycles, and went out with some friends. Like, if you don’t need to go to your parents’ for Christmas it makes planning that holiday easier with your wife’s family, for example. You don’t need to spend time with rotten people and you don’t always realize you’re allowed to leave until you do.

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      1 month ago

      I should clarify another detail. Part of the reason we’re visiting my parents is because I’m not expecting him to be around much longer. I know my dad is going to die soon. He’s got type 2 diabetes, fibrosis of the lungs, and congestive heart failure. He was just taken into the hospital this past week because he collapsed at a doctor’s appointment, and he had just been released a couple days before we visited.

      I’m having this heated argument with him, temporarily oblivious to the fact that he could have a stroke right there. Both my wife and my mom are trying to get the argument to stop because they realize it, but they are both also still arguing quietly along.

      It would be funny if it wasn’t so damn tragic.

      I have a brother and sister who both live close to our parents, and neither of them visited during or after his hospital stay.

      Yesterday my wife suggested that we shouldn’t visit until after the election, but I can’t do that because I’m not sure he’ll live that long.

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        In the meantime he is trying to fuck up your future and the future of everyone’s children.