This is my first time writing a post (and in an internet forum).
Last year, I found about narcissism through a few videos on YouTube. I was able to come to a conclusion that my parents (and some relatives) were narcissistic. They had shown these traits throughout my childhood.
Since then, I’ve been trying to make a couple of changes in order to help with the situation with my parents (like moving to another room, grey rocking). But it had a few side effects.
I’ve had to sacrifice self-care for a few months in order to remain low-contact. I’ve tried subtly asking them to get self-care products so I cope with most of the things going around at our house (we had a bug/fly problem, and much more).
Nowadays it isn’t much safe and I want to be able to change that. Is there any possible way to still live with the situation (until you’re at an age where you can get a steady income, have some independence)?
“Narcissistic behaviour” is an ableist dogwhistle. We don’t talk about enabling deaf behaviour, or autistic behaviour, because those are disabilities we treat with a modicum more respect.
We talk about enabling harmful behaviour. No one has a right to harm others, not even those with a disability.