cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20091173

I’ve been waiting until after Christmas day to make this post, but some of our communities recently have had a lot of noise and upset over someone that uses neopronouns that most people are unfamiliar with.

So I want to make this clear. A persons pronouns are to be respected. This is true when the user is using neopronouns that you’re unfamiliar with. It’s true even if you think someone is trolling. Pronouns are not rewards for good behaviour. They aren’t only to be respected when you like the person you’re interacting with, or if their pronouns “make sense” to you. Trolls, spammers, twitter users, it doesn’t matter who they are, your options are to respect their pronouns, or to not engage with them.

I really want to re-iterate the importance of this. Gender diverse folk are undermined, invalidated and questioned at every step of our lives. As a community, we need to be working to undo that, not creating more of it, and that means there is no space for treating pronouns (including neopronouns) as a reward for good behaviour.

This isn’t a free reign for trolls and spammers. The rules still apply. Trolling, spamming, etc will continue to be dealt with, but it’s not an excuse to act as if respecting someones pronouns is optional.

  • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    22 days ago

    Whatever tho, I guess every individual user is supposed to independently block an asshat who tells people to commit suicide,

    The message clearly and categorically states the rules still apply, and that behaviour is what gets actioned. Literally nothing about the post says that someone using neopronouns is otherwise exempt from the rules. If someone is telling someone to kill themselves, report it or DM it to a community mod.

    • herinaceus@sh.itjust.works
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      22 days ago

      So, transphobic trolling is ok? Shitting on neopronouns and hiding behind dumbfuck ironic bullshit in third-person is fine? Just no telling people to kill themselves, because that gets a temporary ban…

      I’m not here to re-hash the most obvious shit that has already been reported by others and deleted by mods. It’s fine tho, have fun defending a troll, and feeding them by taking what they say (in third goddamn person) seriously, at the detriment to everyone else.