OK so if you feel Lemmy has been trending towards hostility in the past weeks ppease here me out, interact in the comments but keep it civil.

Lemmy vs Reddit

We all had our reasons to move to Lemmy. What I remember clearly from the beginning of the summer was that we were all praising the tone. Over the years, Reddit has become increasingly toxic - most of all in the comment section. To me, that was what made Lemmy special. Even with less content, the general vobe was what made me come back every time.

clash of the clans

Due to the nature of the fediverse, we get to interact with people with different backgrounds and dofferent ideas. Potentially an incredibly enriching experience for everyone. Anti-defed lemmings defend staying federated with everyone for that precise reason, which I really get. But lately the vibe has turned sour. Every post that has the slightest political undertone becomes this big us-vs-them show. Please stop

discussion vs. shitshow

I am not arguing for stopping discussing our opinions. I also get the whole they don’t have downvotes thing. But can we please treat eachother with dignity, and when writing comments say ‘I believe’ or ‘in my opinion’ instead of ‘you all this or that’?

I think this is the only way forward if we want to prevent everyone from personally blocking a lot of instances in the furure.

  • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Honestly it seems to be mostly related to the instances you’re on and who they’re federated with

    The instance I primarily use (Blahaj) had some drama recently that turned it into a bit of a shit show for a little while but once we were no longer federated with the problem it quickly got a lot nicer

    Basically now you can have a civil discussion without people dogpiling and sealioning you down for having a slightly different opinion

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      Sh.itjust.works just had the exact same thing. Hexbear federated with us for a day or two, and things caught on fire. Then they defederated and things were fine again.

      This is a lemmy.ml sub, so maybe op is from .ml and is still seeing them?

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        Sh.itjust.works has already defederated from Hexbear? That quick? No announcement whatsoever?

        Btw, lemm.ee is federated with Hexbear.

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        Lemm.ee is federated with practically every instance. Which is moslty a blessing, but sometimes (and increasingly) a curse.