So I am a part of the LGBTQ community and work in a big city in middle europe. A lot of my coworkers are religios and have a foreign background. They are mostly very nationalist and homo-/transphobic. I hate them for their blind hate and bigotry, which wont change. I have realised, that I have become a bit bigotred towards people like them in the last few months, which is, even tho my biases often revealed to be true, just unfair to them. How could I stop that?
It’s not unfair if they are bigoted.
Try to ignore everyone’s background before judging them. Wait until they reveal their true opinions then feel free to judge.
I know it seems like all the people from certain cultures have similar opinions, and it’s true on average. But don’t miss good people in there. Let it that be your motivation - finding good people in a sea of assholes.
What do you mean by ignoring background? At first that sounds like “I don’t see color” but surely you dont mean it like that. What did you have in mind?
I absolutely mean it like that.
It doesn’t preclude acknowledging that other people do see color.
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Ignoring or dismissing someone’s background, culture, identity, and experiences is a terrible way to get to know them. That’s like trying to understand the Odyssey without knowing about the Iliad
Ignoring or dismissingAssuming based on stereotypes someone’s background, culture, identity, and experiences is a terrible way to get to know them.I’m not saying to assume. But that doesn’t mean ignore. You acknowledge, listen, and learn. It’s part of the whole story.