• Neato@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    Well, femboys are men who dress feminine. Does that mean you’re attracted to them being feminine? Or are you attracted because they’re men? Because you can certainly be attracted to women with penises (trans women) and be straight and be attracted to feminine-presenting men and be gay.

    Personally I think you should just embrace whatever you find attractive and not worry about the sexuality labels. But I know not every society allows just permissive views.

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      1 year ago

      Does that mean you’re attracted to them being feminine? Or are you attracted because they’re men?

      yes

      More seriously, in my experience androgynous/GNC features are widely considered attractive in bisexual circles because they combine attractive features of multiple genders, which is at least twice as many attractive things.

      However someone discovering themselves as “not straight” might not have enough understanding of the relationship between gender and attraction to answer your question.
      In my case as I hit puberty I realized I was attracted to girls, so I thought “ok I’m straight”. Years and many ignored signs later I realized I found feminine men hot, so I thought “I’m straight so it’s because they’re feminine”. Then like a year or two later I caught myself thinking a definitely-not-effeminate actor was hot (not for the first time) and the other shoe dropped. Yeah, I’m a dumbass, but point is that it’s much easier to put a label on oneself and go from there, than to deconstruct something as complex as gender and attraction.

      Thank you for coming to my ted talk.