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Cake day: November 2nd, 2023

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  • Story time…

    On the way home from work I stepped off a bus and turned in the direction of home. A young woman who was a few steps ahead of me was being verbally harassed with overtly sexual language by a man. I stepped between them, facing the dude, and told him to fuck off and walk away. Some words were exchanged, and eventually he turned around and walked away. I watch him for a minute or two, then turned around and walked home. The woman he was harassing was long gone.

    When I got home and relayed this story to my girlfriend, she said this sort of interaction was COMMON. She’d never mentioned it in the nearly 10 years we’d been dating. It was normal to her. My response was “What the actual fuck? That’s bullshit.” But it was her reality, and the reality of the woman I saw, and probably dozens or hundreds more, every day.

    We collectively need to do better. We need to stop doing it ourselves, and stop our friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances, and even strangers from doing it. We need to raise the average and be better.







  • Yup, bought a townhouse, and paid a premium because the finishes were very nice, and everything looked good, even passed a pre-purchase inspection by someone with a lot of industry experience.

    The tub leaked three times and ruined the ceiling in the dining room each time. The shower wasn’t properly waterproofed, so that was a $35k rip-repair-replace. None of the furnaces had proper condensation drains, so my upstairs neighbour’s A/C unit dripped condensation into my hallway for 4 days while we were on vacation, ruining the walls, causing mould. Our unit’s A/C was mismatched - the outside unit didn’t match the inside unit, and for 4 years we were constantly repairing it, until I spent $12k to replace it. There was a bunch of other small shit, but if I ever lay eyes on the builder, I’ll punch him in the face.


  • The real problem is that all alerts are sent at the highest priority ‘presidential alert’ or ‘disaster warning’. Missing persons / Amber alerts should obey volume settings and do-no-disturb, but we don’t appear to have the technology to do that.

    There was an incident in Ontario where an elderly grandparent was missing for 12 hours – so they sent the alert to a 1200km radius… at 2am. Then again a few minutes later. Then again 30 minutes later. Then again at 3am, then again at 4am. The OPP woke up several million people, several times, for an entire night. The result? A police officer saw them on Lakeshore Blvd. in Toronto, less than 60km from their home. There was zero benefit to waking up every household with a cell phone across most of the province – and I’m willing to bet there was a HUGE increase in traffic accidents the next day (because losing just ONE hour of sleep to daylight savings time has this effect).

    You’re right to be mad, but you’re fixing it the wrong way.