Possibly related to the whole mental load thing: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

When you have two jobs you don’t really want a third.

It’s hard to know overall for Lemmy, but I know that both Lemmy.ca and Lemmy.nz have surveyed their members.

https://lemmy.ca/post/15125231 https://lemmy.nz/post/12001861

Both were around 87% men, where as this selfhosting one is like 96% men.

I would guess it’s explained by society. Women are less likely to be in STEM which seems to almost be a prerequisite for Lemmy and possibly self-hosting, and of those women in STEM, and ( despite what you might think about your own house) there is still a societal expectation of them running the household and doing most of the household chores, even when they work full time. A third job, selfhosting, may be too much.

Damn, and I thought the gender ratio on Lemmy was bad.

Who can be quiet the longest works briefly on my kids, the only problem is their capability is pretty low.

I have a parenting hack for a 5 minute break. Last night one of my kids was saying “Dad, dad, can you give me a challenge?”. Expecting things like hop around the house on one foot, or that sort of thing.

I said “I bet you can’t sit still on a chair for 5 minutes”, this being a child who regularly falls off their chair at dinner time. They thought that was a great challenge, so I set a timer and the challenge was on. The look on their face made it look like they were concentrating harder than they had ever concentrated in their life, but they were really determined and managed to do it! And I got to sit down for a 5 min break 😮

After that, the other kids wanted to have a turn too, but one of them decided that they could just pause the timer and do some thing they wanted to do. Of course that defeats the purpose, but they didn’t think so, so I think the hack won’t work again.

Exactly. Not the over a million that it looks like at a glance.

The user count isn’t helpful anyway, active users is a much better measure.

That graph is so misleading. Makes it look like almost all the users disappeared but the Y axis only covers a small range at the top.

adjustable distance between lenses and the display

Does this help focus? For the headsets that have this, I thought it was so you could fit your glasses.

I used to have an Index, and moving the lenses didn’t seem to change the focus in the way that glasses do.

Edit: Oh, in your picture, it’s specifically a focus wheel, so must be something different about it.

It said it was free to download and use but a convenience charge for getting it on Steam.

But like you, I’m also happy with Heroic, and there’s also Lutris.

20 years ago, if someone said ‘u’ for ‘you’ then I assumed they were young. These days if I see someone use ‘u’ for ‘you’ I assume they are 60+.

I think Searx is a good suggestion. Can be a bit slow to return results because it runs the search on a bunch of search engines and compiles the results, but that helps to make sure better stuff rises to the top.

It’s pretty awful, yeah. We have booster seats for the older two in our Leaf, but for longer trips we want to try to keep full harnesses as long as possible. Better protection but also they can’t slip out of the belt when they fall asleep.

We have these special “clicktight” seats that install using a different mechanism than normal that help you get them nice and tight even though there is no room around them. I’ve got lots of practice now so even though I try to avoid it, I can install them pretty quick if I have to.

Yep, pretty rough. I am keen to get something electric next time around, we have a Leaf at the moment as well but I’m keen for something longer range. But this Kuga with all it’s electronics puts me off a car that relies so much on it’s computer and electronic system, so not sure what good options there are for a long range EV that is also reliable.

The sad thing is we don’t even drive the Kuga that much, only for long trips. I think it would be a reasonable bet that we’ve spent less on fuel than we have on maintenance.

I would like to give some benefit of the doubt with regard to intent since the memo itself doesn’t specifically say they can’t talk to patients in their own language, and I can imagine scenarios where a staff member doesn’t know what is happening because discussions are happening in a language they don’t speak.

But… holy shit, how could you write a memo like this and not expect to end up in the media? It’s like the person writing it can’t imagine a world where English isn’t the best language for all circumstances.

I feel like there is potentially a problem but management lacks the problem solving skills to come up with a real solution.

It’s just a bunch of jokes about NZ. Nothing informative, I think you probably have to watch it as it wouldn’t translate well to text. It’s nothing deep though.

I think if you could the train an hour earlier, you’d probably see a lot more colour. There’s definitely a demographic shift after off peak rates and free gold card travel kick in at 9am.

Even among the corporates, bright shirts and brightly coloured hair aren’t uncommon in a government office building.

I’ve got a Ford Kuga I can sell you, which is a mid-sized SUV.

Just kidding, I’d never do that to you. When we get rid of it, it will be a trade in, as I couldn’t look someone in the eye while selling it to them. I think we’ve probably spent $5k+ on repairs and maintenence since we obtained it in a Great Family Car Swap a few years ago. Just need to wait for another year or two until we don’t need 3 car seats side by side.

I normally play games on quite a lag. I don’t have much free time, and there are lots of good games. I basically never buy games that aren’t 75% off or more.

But when I saw Baldur’s Gate 3 was on GOG, I bought it straight away, as it had great reviews, it’s full price seemed very reasonable, and if AAA publishers are putting recent games on GOG I want to support that.

It sure does. It’s quite different to other games suggested in this thread, but if it’s the kind of game OP is wanting to try then it’s very good as a couch coop game (on PC, not sure if supported on other platforms). Though I get the feeling OP is looking for action or round based, rather than a quiet tending of a farm and exploring the local area.

I hope it’s not coming up soon as I haven’t made much progress!