y’know, i really thought lemmy would be better than this but i guess it is just fucking reddit all over again.
this stupid “men have to be chad thundercock or die alone!!!1111 it’s so easy for women waahhhhh” shit is just a divisive incel talking point with no basis in reality. you literally just pulled numbers out of your ass too. the incel community is growing at an alarming rate because of all the talking heads on social media who purport this trash and people like you who mindlessly repeat it.
If you use the same talking points and terminology (“low-value man” lol) as they do, then I have every reason to draw comparison. The problem lies with the fact that y’all insist on framing this as exclusively a men’s issue, and that women are somehow to blame for having unrealistically high standards that you make up and project onto them.
Since we’re cherry-picking surveys, here are some for you: https://www.salon.com/2022/11/06/why-are-so-many-young-people-are-having-less-and-fewer-friendships/ https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2020/08/20/nearly-half-of-u-s-adults-say-dating-has-gotten-harder-for-most-people-in-the-last-10-years/
Indeed, there is no basis in reality that women have it easier. You can speculate that it’s a product of evolution but that at best only points to surface-level differences, while the overall negative experience that has come about from the commodification of dating affects both sexes.
Edit: Also, let’s say that it is men who are disproportionately affected, I find it interesting that the first reason you go to are all the things that men are commonly insecure about (height, penis size, etc.) despite those things not being the focus of the sources you provided later.
This is the main reason why I compared your post to incel talking points. Their whole tactic is playing off of the insecurities of men, making them feel bad about themselves, and framing it as the opinions of women despite no input from actual women being present. Which, unfortunately, is exactly what you were doing with your initial post, whether you’re aware of it or not.