My internal thought of being lesbian is someone who has feminine trait(s) who is interested in others with feminine trait(s). But like almost everything else in this world, there are cases where this doesn’t exactly fit. All you can do is accept that words are generally intuitive but can always have edge cases where you would least expect. So, I’m not sure I agree with the premise but hey, do what makes you feel better.

Oh and the part about Voldemort’s mom using a male pseudonym was on point.

I mean, it’s not exactly a defining feature. It’s not a prerequisite for someone to be an asshole in order to be a gamer. It just happens that a bunch of people are toxic and a also play games.