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          I love my job, and I love seeing positive changes in my clients. And I can confirm that it’s ~90% dealing with people whose parents sucked. The others usually experienced some kind of adult trauma or just want to explore themselves more.

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            Everyone’s parents suck, and today’s kids will fuck up their kids also. It’s almost unavoidable as part of the separation process, where kids will try to be as different from their parents as possible.

            This causes conflicts and parents reacting in “wrong” ways to their kids being morons. :)

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              There is such a thing as abuse. Not everyone’s parents suck. Some beat their children, some love them. Sure, everyone hates their parents at some point, and it’s all relative. You’re making it sound like abusive parents don’t exist.

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      No they don’t, they just want more obediance no matter what and degrade you for having any needs at all.

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        You’re a child, that means I provide food, lodging and transportation in exchange for you taking care of my emotional needs. I’m a good parent because you haven’t starved to death.

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          Except they never consented to that deal, and you made them too young to make major life decisions. Fix that first, then ask them again when they’re in their 20 if they’d like to help you. But I think you might already know what position you put yourself in. Enjoy the daycare home in your old age

          Let’s hope the next generation has learned what not to do

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        Hitting a child is not parenting. It’s abuse.

        There is nothing a child learns from being hit, only violence. There are ways to show a child that they did wrong, hitting them is not one of them