It seems that every community takes anything said about gender dysphoria that isn’t calling it great and beautiful and awesome, as transphobia, and the mods delete comments.
I’m wondering if there is a community for people dealing with dysphoric children that don’t get offended if something is said in honest questioning and honest debate, that doesn’t toe the politically correct line?
It’s impossible to find real help online because everyone wants to make it political. It may be political in the macro, but the micro isn’t political, and there should be room for all opinions and debate, especially when the goal is to help the person afflicted and the family to grow and be healthy in their relationships.
The only thing your child needs if they have gender dysphoria is love and support. Period. If they are asking for a name change or pronoun change, listen to them. If they are asking for hormone blockers or hormones and that scares you, get therapy. Actually get therapy with a therapist knowledgeable about trans issues anyway, because you need someone to keep you from inadvertently traumatizing your child.
This isn’t a dig at you, this is true of any parent of a trans kid. I am that kid ~25 years down the road and I am legitimately lucky to be alive after dealing with gender dysphoria by myself and surviving a suicide attempt as a teen.
I encourage you to read this Scientific American article that goes into detail on all the evidence about what support (or lack of it) does for trans youth.