pretty quiet week this week if you ignore whatever the hell is going on with our bathroom toilet, which has a diagnostic issue we can’t troubleshoot and which has flooded once this week. calling maintenance once again to see if we can figure this out so i don’t have to plunge every third time we flush (ironically it’d be way easier if we just had to plunge every time–but it’s the times we don’t that make this extremely bizarre)
“Everything is awesome! Everything is cool when you’re” checks notes “Drinking really nice scotch!”
I’m okay. I was super tired toward the end of last week, to the point where I ate PTO on Friday just so I could go home and sleep. This week is whatever. I’m starting voice training which I’m super nervous about, and other than that it’s the same as always. I didn’t even get an extended weekend because I don’t work Mondays. 🥹
Why nervous about the voice training?
In the words of someone, “what if my best isn’t good enough?”
Ahhh, the self-doubt that drives people who excel in their areas to continually strive to improve even more… I don’t mean to be dismissive, but I think this is a feature of your passion & determination, and these things carry people far further than raw aptitude alone.
Had typed out a longer reply but Memmy ate it. Apologies if both appear at your end.
Let us know how it goes.
Had typed out a longer reply but Memmy ate it.
Now there’s something I can relate to.
I know that everything will probably be fine. It’s just that I’ve seen so many people despairing over voice training. I don’t want to feel despair, I want to be happy, so that always makes me worry a little bit. I’m willing to put in as much effort as it takes, so fingers crossed I do well. :)
Well, I’m back. The first session went really well! It was mostly just boilerplate stuff, but I’m feeling a lot more confident now that I’ve actually taken the first step. Finally, some homework I can be excited about. 😅
Oh, I’ve been there. I hope you found a good coach. Mine moved away just a few months after I started, but I learned soooo much and he was very inspiring. Saw your first session went well - congratulations!!
Thank you! 💜
Today’s the third anniversary of my dad’s death. It’s still so hard.
Counting the victories
Cheering you on anyhow, but want to tell us about any of them?
Sure. Today I was feeling absolutely terrible. I canceled a visit with this girl I’m interested in this morning. I was simply feeling overwhelmed and I didn’t want her to see the state of my apartment.
So here’s the victory. I deleted that message, and told her I was looking forward to it. I cooked something tasty for myself. Then I got my arse into high gear and took all day to do chores.
At the end of the afternoon I walked to the shop and bought some fancy fresh ingredients. At home I played a game for 30 mins and when she arrived I cooked. She loved it. Aaand she bought me flowers!
And now I’m sitting here with a =)
Squee. This is one amazing turnaround!
Super excited for tomorrow, gonna lose my virginity to that really nice and fun chef girl. She’s coming over to my place for a good few hours.
Oooh, this is exciting. Has been so lovely to hear all your updates about how things are going for you & this latest girl.
Have a beautiful time!
It went pretty well, we didn’t end up having PIV sex in the end (but we did some other non PIV stuff which was very fun still) since my body was way more nervous than I mentally was, I just couldn’t keep it up as a result. Thankfully the girl is a saint and totally understands and is happy to see me again twice next week :).
Sounds kind of like my first time a couple years ago. Sex can be a great way to bond with awesome people even if it’s only for a night. I cant say I know your life, but if you take each experience as a bonding opportunity, you’ll have a fulfilling experience I tbink.
That’s what I’ve been doing and it seems to be working out so far.
JESYS FUCK IT’S BEEN 3 FUCKING DAYS AND IT FEELS LIKE IT’S BEEN 3 YEARS.
You might remember me posting a while ago about breaking up with my wife. That week does not even COMPARE to this week. I can’t mention a lot of it without a lot of people getting very angry, but maybe being angry would be an improvement over how things are now.
Got drunk tonight because everyone thought the drama was over, and we wanted to wind down. Turns out no, it was not over, and we got smacked with all of it at once AND MORE while drunk and of course, dealt with it like drunk idiots and made it worse.
So now it’s 6am. I haven’t slept. I won’t be sleeping. I feel like I’m gonna vomit. I gotta try not to make people angry tomorrow, people gotta try not to make me angry tomorrow. Nobody will succeed.
What sucks is there’s a bunch of amazing stuff that happened tonight, too, but it was more than ruined by drunk idiots like me handling drama. Jesus I want it to be over so I can just appreciate all the good stuff that came out of this, but that’s gonna take a lot longer than just this week.
I’m out of town to help my parents move. Oh my god, my mom has so much shit. Especially kitchen stuff. Yes, she cooks (and cooks very well), but it’s not like she’s a passionate chef or baker who’s always cooking in her freetime, as like a hobby. Nor is she cooking to feed a family of 5. No, it’s just her and my dad, and my younger brother (who’s only just living at home temporarily again). My dad doesn’t have nearly as much stuff.
It’s boomer-level conspicuous consumption at it’s worst.
On the plus side, it’s my birthday today (as of this post). 37yo. What a weird age to be. It feels like no-man’s land. Gonna fly to San Diego for a few days to celebrate and enjoy. Off the rest of the week to do that. Rarely do the whole “birthday week” thing, but I needed a vacation.
Sounds like my parents’ kitchen. It used to be somewhat sensible, and my mother doesn’t have much interest in buying stuff for it, but my father will just appear with things for her.
She’s finally got him to ease off a lot lately, but he’ll still try to persuade her to let him order things she doesn’t need or want.
Happy Birthday vacationing!!
Thanks!
Like I get having a house and wanting/needing to fill it. Or seeing something that you’ve always wanted and buying it, even if you don’t need it (for me, it’s games on Steam). But this is ridiculous. It took 4 trips with moving trucks (a 26’ [7.9m] and 15’ [4.5m]), plus numerous trips with their SUV. Hopefully my parents, especially my mom, will start going through it all and either getting rid of old stuff or consolidating. They have at least one more move once they buy their “final house” – god, that sounds morbid – but I said if they have the same amount of stuff or more, that I won’t help. It’s just too much to move.
Though it’s an empty threat: I’ll still help them move 😒
I’m sorry to hear about your plumbing troubles! I hope you’ve made some progress since then.
It’s been rough over here. I’ve been at my job four years and I’m making as much as the new hires. I have a hunch they’ll raise my rent in September so I really want to go to tech school and get out of retail, but finding anyone in my area who will treat ADHD is hard. Knowing my past, I think it’ll be a huge waste if I enroll without getting medicated first.
The sun is coming out though, and I saw a Pink Floyd tribute show which was really fun. Good things will still pop up even if things get harder.
got banned from lemmy.ml again for criticising communists… again
Well I got into beehaw and I’m having a reddit-like experience for the first time in a year, but this time more wholesome
On my way to a job interview that I’m really looking forward to. Got another less exciting one lined up afterwards. My current place is visibly going under, and I don’t plan to stick around for it.
Update: Definitely got the first job, probably got the second one, dropped a few other resumes while I’m all dressed up. Groundhog didn’t see his shadow and it’s a beautiful spring day to walk around Chicago.
Congratulations!! May you get to pick which ever job you prefer!
Fantastic news.
Congrats on the job(s)!
Great job, congrats! And a second “great job” for being front of mind to drop additional resumes while looking snazzy!
the foster
dogfail got the go-ahead from the vet to do agility, sococoecho is here to stay! i took her to a 30-minute agility lesson on friday, and she learned jump, tire, tunnel, dog walk, and A-frame. yesterday, she started working on the teeter and is so enthusiastic about learning new things.one of my goals this year was to not get another dog, but sometimes the right dog comes along and… yeah. i think my partner will be happy to have a break from fostering, since that’s always a bit of a gamble. three is the maximum i can care for, so it’ll be awhile before i foster again. i still need to get the paperwork together (and write the check), but once that’s done she’ll officially be part of the family. <3
Yay, what a great update to the story. She’s gorgeous, and well bonded to you already. Happy times!
I just my shit kicked in by home insurance increases. It’s fucking dire down here in the gulf south. My escrow is currently equal to my principal + interest on mortgage. I have to start freelancing again outside of work hours again to make ends meet, not thrilled about that.
Fourth date with the chef girl went very well all this considered, we ended up having sex (non PIV since I was very physically but not mentally anxious annoyingly as I just couldn’t keep it up despite really wanting to and not feeling anxious at all mentally) which was amazing and she spent basically 5 or 6 hours at my place cuddling naked and doing stuff, then watched the bo burnham special ‘Inside’ which she is a big fan of. Quite good for my first musical.
Thankfully the girl is very understanding about the performance issues since it was my very first time doing anything like this and she is happy to see me agan twice next week :). She is so lovely.
How are we already in the second half of February? Has this month absolutely flown by for anyone else?
Busy week coming up, but mostly with events and activities that I’m looking forward to. Hope everyone has a good week!
It has for me. I’m honestly happy about it because every day last month felt like a lifetime.
It has for me. Had a weird start to the year which perhaps explains it, but last year hurtled past, and am still surprised we’re in the 2020s.
What kind of stuff do you have planned for the week?
Having a night to meet up with some friends, got a day planned for volunteering at a local non-profit, and finally getting to dive into The Expanse book series, among all the day-to-day stuff!