• heartlessevil@lemmy.one
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    1 year ago

    Are they averse to conversation? They might not like to talk. But you might find that if you are feeling a person doesn’t want to communicate, it might be because you are not communicating well either. You need to use your own skills and take initiative.

    I can point you to several skills.

    https://dbt.tools/interpersonal_effectiveness/dear-man.php

    https://www.practicalrecovery.com/prblog/family-communication-be-pius-this-holiday-season/

    Be very gentle using any interpersonal skills. Only ever speak from “I statements”. If it doesn’t work, it wasn’t meant to work.

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      1 year ago

      I am the “averse” one- meaning, I have a hard time setting firm boundaries, struggle with gathering the courage to say no, etc. The person in question I’m having to push back against is kind of passive aggressive/manipulative, but seems very confrontational.

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        1 year ago

        So why are you talking to them? Part of being a good conversationalist is knowing when to drop it.

        I think (I am a shit head on the internet) that this might be telling you something. To reaffirm those boundaries you already know about.

        Talk to them or don’t, but remember what is important to you personally.