One time I told a painful story about when my girlfriend broke up with me for a dude with what she described as a “freakishly huge” dick.
Someone just said “That must have been a very memorable night for her”
oof
damn son
yeah 😔
Good riddance buddy, if she was running around behind your back. Hope you’re in a better place now.
Well this happened in bumblefuck Arkansas and I live in Denver now so yeah, I’m in a better place
What do you mean? I only meant it in a good way
What do you mean? I only meant it in a good way
You meant “a better place” metaphorically. They understood this, but jokingly took it literally. Denver is indeed a better place than “bumblefuck Arkansas.”
Haha thanks, it seems they changed their answer after I asked the question
Didn’t really hurt but more like sting. I published a popular video and someone wrote they needed to switch from their usual 2x speed watching videos to 1x because of my accent.
I get it, English is my 4th language so it won’t be very smooth. But I’ve been using it for 99℅ of my conversations since I moved to Korea 3 years ago and I feel I’m better in it than almost everyone I interact with here.
Who the hell watches videos at 2x speed anyway?
For folks with ADHD, like myself, slow talking video essays are a special kind of hell.
Agreed. I’m convinced that most YouTube videos are slowed by 25%. The ones I watch are barely tolerable at 125% speed. I usually run them at 150%.
It’s because you talk fast and efficient.
Btw english is my 2nd, may I ask what are your other three? My first is Hungarian
Polish, German and Swedish. Now I’m learning Korean, not because I want to but because I moved to Korea and without it it’s difficult to do anything.
That’s also why I had to learn the other languages other than English, because I moved to those countries.
Wow, you almost went around the globe
EU freedom of movement really is something else, lol
Don’t worry. People that watch videos at 2x can be considered to be insane.
Thank god, I was afraid to be judged insane.
But I’m good since I watch my videos at 2.5-3.0 times speed!
Fucking hell.
Anything above 1,5 is fast as fuck for me.
It’s weird, in my native language I tend to turn the speed down much more often than in English.
Ah yes, I forgot folks with ADHD are also insane. /s
4th? Man that commenter owes you nothing, nada. You did your best and the rest is their problem.
You know 4 languages!?!?! That’s amazing. Don’t let anyone judge you because you’re not 100% in 4 friken languages.
I’m usually watching at 2.5-3.0 times speed. I turn down the speed either for A: entertainment (movies simply have a sort of pacing that is not so nice to interrupt (compared to any random YouTube video)), or B: because the content is sooo good and information dense that the limiting factor is no longer audio processing, but following the reasoning of the content. Those are the videos I love most.
Some people are very insensitive to other people’s hard work.
goign from 2x to 1x is not really that bad of a thing. Hes saying he can understand you but not at an artificially high rate of speed. I personally don’t get watching things at multiple speeds but im someone who would rather read a doc overall.
No, because I’m not a bitch
No
I remember getting one from a fascist saying they wanted to “tie people like [me] up and drag their bodies from [their] truck”
From my experience people on the sites (lemmy, etc.), are way kinder, more respectful and accepting, than people, I meet in real life. That might also be my problem as I’m autistic and find almost any in-person comunication confusing.
When I was a lot younger, on an old forum back in the early 00s, someone called me a “know-it-all”. This sounds silly now but it really hit me in just the wrong way at the time, I was sincerely trying to fit in by showing off my knowledge of the subject with no idea that that’s how I was coming across. I guess it was a learning experience.
Now I want to be a learn-it-all.
I was once banned from some forums for being “too weird to fit in”. It was a forum for a forming WoW guild prior to its launch in 2004. I remember that it somehow crushed my quirky personality, and I became a bit of a drudge as a result.
Although I still game, and sometimes online, I’ve never since tried to actually fit in with any group, and have mostly stopped communicating when gaming at all. No voicechat, only chat, and even that very limited. I guess you could say the single experience changed my outlook and enjoyment of online gaming forever.
Online gaming is fun. It just sucks if it turns into all of the bad parts of high-school. I was doing MMOs before WoW and we weren’t ever the popular kids. Once wow came out and it became mainstream I probably took a 10 year haitas. Back at it now but things have chilled out quite a bit.
I was banned from r/Ukrainian for advocating for the Russian people and how we shouldn’t demonize an entire population.
I’m Ukrainian. I was born in Ukraine…
Oh it happens all the time. The worst thing, in this case, is that you don’t even need to be Ukrainian to have such an opinion — people demonising an entire population deals in absolutes which are never a black/white situation, unfortunately
Nobody wants to think of the guy in the latest drone video as the father of a 6 month old who’ll never know their father because he was drafted by an authoritarian government to fight in an unjust war. I’m sure a lot of those Russians are full on board with the war, but I’m certain a lot of them aren’t, too. Same reason people have such a hard time empathizing with both the Oct 7 victims of Hamas and the Palestinian people. It’s horror enough thinking of these things as good vs. evil…it’s so much worse when you see all the grey. As an American, I can’t help but see Israel making the same mistakes we did after Sept 11. I’m sure they feel the same rage and fear I felt then, and I imagine it’s making them blindly lust for revenge just like I did. It’s all just so fucking bleak how easy it is to convince ourselves that our enemies aren’t people.
Honestly, one comment, no. But I did stop playing online multiplayer games because the toxicity of the chat box made the experience frustrating and annoying instead of fun and I decided that it wasn’t causing the emotions I wanted to be having in my free time.
As someone who grew up playing control decks in trading card games online… So many death threats from actual adults lmao… That being said, thanks to that now I don’t even see anyone who throws death threats, or wishes harm on people online as human beings. Has been great for disconnecting emotionally from overly aggressive people online as an adult now.
There were too many for me to count.
Most of then were misgendering me. Let me say this one more time. I. AM. NOT. A. GIRL. I’ve never been a girl. I’m not even a transgender woman. I was assigned male at birth, and I identify as male.
Now that I think about it, I should change my legal name.
Girl gotta do what a girls gotta do
I meant the fact that my real name “Imrane” (a male name) looks too similar to “Imane” (a female name). Just the absence of the letter R makes people think I’m something else entirely.
And I used to use my real name on social media until about a year ago. I guess that was kind of on me.
Oh man, I think it’s the ‘e’ at the end of your name, which in a bunch of Romance languages would make it feminine. If it’s any consolation, solid men’s English names like ‘Lindsay’ and ‘Ashley’ are almost exclusively women’s names now for the same reason. (The “-y” or “-ie” marks a cutesy diminutive version, i.e. “bird” to “birdy”.)
I don’t think it’s the similarity to “Imane” (unless this is happening in your home culture) because I have never heard of that name before. However, I have seen “Imran” and I would have assumed that “Imrane” was the feminine version because of that ‘e’.
Wasn’t Imran Khan a famous cricketer?
Nope, that is not the case at all. A lot of Arabic names tend to be written with an E at the end in countries that experienced colonialism from the French, just to match French phonetics. I happened to be taught to spell my name this way.
So it’s Francophones, not Anglophones misgendering you?
I have a girls name and my last name is a very popular Asian female name too.
My entire life I get misgendered on phone, email, chat. It’s not a big deal. Hell, it can be an advantage - I’ve gotten more than one job interview because they expect a woman.
Well, that’s one way to look at it.
Time to be tran- oh wait, it’s illegal to be transgender in my country. This is why I hate being Moroccan.
I think your name is cool
A person who I used to look up to tried grooming me. Needless to say they underestimated both my age AND my intelligence.
Deeply? No, but you try and be funny or helpful and sometimes it offends someone because they read it a certain way (text can be ambiguous) and that can ruin a day for me. No good reason, mind you, but they can get really mean about it and what, do I apologize or fight? You didn’t exactly want to clarify for a jackass coming after you for no reason.
I’m also not highly fond of people when they correct you on stuff when it’s not really warranted. Lemmy does that a lot; you can’t always write a 20pg paper about a random comment to address every little facit of what you said, haha.
Yeah I just leave those comments and walk away. Explaining or editing a comment no-one is ever going to read is not worth the time. Nothing good can come from it.
You win some you lose some.
Comment on something new.
Nope. Your opinion is not my identity.
