Such a long title.

Basically I’m wondering if this happens IRL, and how. I’ve heard countless stories of people who hold a grudge against family members /ex partners/ ex friends/ neighbours etc. for years, and they do horrible things to each other. Or maybe just the cold shoulder can be rough especially for such a long time. But not so many stories of people in these situations who suddenly talk things out unexpectedly, out of their own will and not because they kept getting nagged about whatever happened.

I’ve also heard about people who screw up big once, never acknowledge or apologize, then everyone puts the episode behind and moves on. But I’ve never heard about suddenly this person perhaps decades afterwards just actually addressing their screw up and apologizing.

So, have you ever received one of these big, unexpected apologies? Or have you ever apologized for something you did you never thought you would want or dare to apologize for?

  • all-knight-party@kbin.cafe
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    1 year ago

    Oh man, I despise when people think that shit doesn’t need an apology if time has passed. Time passing doesn’t mean I think youve changed as a person, you need to show that to me, and expecting someone to forgive things when nothing’s been done to repair that is its own problem.

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      1 year ago

      Yep, all it would have taken was a small “Sorry, shouldn’t have done that” and it would be all good. He had a few beers at that point (not super drunk, but a buzz), so even more excusable, not that drinking is an excuse for anything.

      Either way, I wouldn’t have trusted him to be in the same car I’m driving at that point. Entitled prick, maybe next time if he wants to stop somewhere random he might pull the handbrake.