I was gonna try making some apricot chicken tonight but the chickens still frozen as heck, so looks like we’re doing frozen fish and chips instead.
I wish that I could’ve talked it out with him. Respected his need for space and realised he was ignoring me because of that, not because he didn’t love me. I wish I could’ve articulated better to him that I was panicking that week. I wish I wasn’t so nasty about it to him in the end and had a civil discussion. I wish he didn’t give up so easily and that he communicated better as well.
I wish I was over it. People have said I should be over it by now. Everytime I go out, I get paranoid that I’ll see him or any of his people. Anyone that looks remotely like him, I get paranoid and think it’s him. I see a car like his or drive through nearby areas and think that I’ll see him. Worrying about it makes it happen twice or some quote along those lines. I want to forget.
The past is in the past. It is what it is. There is nothing I can do to change it, even if I so desperately want to. When the logical part of my brain kicks in, I realise it’s normal to miss someone you cared about a lot, even if you don’t want them back. It just shows you cared. As for the fears, easier said than done, but I need to realise that time will help me get over it. If I do ever see him again, it might be painful, knowing that in some time, he’s going to be building a life with someone that isn’t me. On the flip side, I get to build my own life, and probably a better life than what I would build with him.
I’ve been chatting with an online friend I made recently and even they will tell me that they’re going to be busy and actually reply to my long spiels of shit, even though I have absolutely no expectations about any of that. I didn’t even have to say anything at all. I realise now that I shouldn’t have had to ask for that much reassurance, and even though I think I would lean towards anxiously attached (in relationships), I was dealing with someone who couldn’t give me the time of day, leading to blows to my self-esteem and me overthinking.
so many hugs
yes, in relationships talk about everything and listen too
My son and I have started going to the gym a few months back.
It’s a local one so always a chance of running into people we know, and definitely kids from my son’s school.
Went today and at one point I saw him kind of go away in a corner. I asked what’s wrong and turns out there were a couple of girls from his glass next to where we gonna work out. I understood his embarassment and went back to get my water bottle so we can move on.
Overheard one of the girls talking about my son and how she thinks he’s cute. He’s got a fairly uncommon name, so it was definitely him.
I didn’t tell him yet, cause he’s a teen and easily embarrassed.
Should I? I’ll talk to my daughter (his older sister) and ask her advice.
He was super shy at the gym, so I’m guessing he might have a crush on the girls.
Parenting, eh?
If you were him, would you want to know?
My teenage self would get more embarrassed. Thankfully he’s got more confidence than I did at his age.
Maybe it’s time for The Conversation - I mean the one about how the communication protocols between teenage males are different from the protocols for communication between teenage males and teenage females. Start him off right, feeling confident that he can interpret the social signals correctly.
I have to say that we (my late partner & I) had to do this with our two boys, as there wasn’t a teenage female in our house while the boys were in their teens, so they were a bit lost to start with. And even then, and especially nowadays, they may not be able to trust their mates to steer them right. And social media including porn is NOT a good guide.
Ignore this if you’ve already dealt with the topic.
Appreciate the advice. We’ve had plenty of talks around this and his sister is a good source of info and guidance for all of us.
I wish I was better prepared for this, but will let him know tomorrow.
Nobody is ever truly prepared I think. Not even the professional advice givers. So much depends on individual circumstances. You rock as a Dad though.
I try to do my best. It’s not perfect but it’s all I got.
I tell my kids that too. They understand which is all I can ask for
If they grow up to be level-headed compassionate adults, I succeeded.
If I was him, and you told me that, I’d be riding that high for months, if not years lol
I thought so too, but my teen self would do nothing with that info and just withdraw more.
He’s not like me in that way thankfully
You’re gym mates now and this is a great opportunity to talk about such things, but listen too.
Another day of the trip done! Today was alright. We went on a river cruise from Mildura to Wentworth (a 30 minute drive), but by paddle steamer it is a 6 hour ride. I’m honestly kind of struggling, it’s feeling rather isolating being the only one under 18 and about 10 years younger than the next youngest person. I mean, although I sometimes joke about it, I’m not anti old people or anti adults. But it’s hard to try and connect with people so much older than me. It’s also shared tables on everything. Dinner, breakfast, 6 hour boat rides, everything.
It’s also a bit of a struggle since the tour was specifically designed for adults, although not adults only. Everything revolves around drinking. Every morning there’s complimentary champagne, every night before dinner there’s pre drinks that run for about an hour. If you don’t do pre drinks, you struggle to get a seat. Tomorrow we’re spending 2 hours at a wine tasting place with no alternate activity available. I know it’s not the end of the tour, but it’s kind of a buzz kill watching everybody else drink for 2 hours straight while I get to stand in the garden and look at their grapes, maybe get a can of coke if I’m lucky.
I think I’m pretty set on not wanting to do big group tours again either. I mean they’ve chosen some good activities, and doing (or at least paying for) everything is the only way to go on the train, which is the only reason I was interested in coming. The train trip is fun, and some of the activities are fun, but the boat was not fun, and really formal group dinners are not fun.
Also a couple of people came onto the train sputtering and I’m starting to feel it too. I’m not sick sick yet, just starting to get a feeling. Most of the train was coughing and sniffling today, so I think I’ve definitely got something, and there doesn’t seem much sense in dropping out of the activities since everybody else is already sick, but I’ll still feel like a dick for it
Surely there must be some other train lovers?
Which leads me to. Maybe you can organise a few mates to come with you next time.
Watching some Kitboga, and yes, the scammers never change.
omg, the real victims are just heartbreaking https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tzXRb8PdmJo 😿😿😿
Please everyone, make sure your folks are safe from scammers.
Hehe I like kitboga, his voices and characters are so good. And the rage he can induce in the scammers is so satisfying
It was so fucking nice to get out of the house on a weekend!
And now I have a new friend and someone to go out and see gigs with!
Maybe my luck really is starting to turn around.
Yesssss! 💜
I suppose Happy Anniversary aussie.zone is in order. Our mates over the Tasman had theirs a week ago, and they had a cool post of all the exciting stuff that happened in the year. I don’t remember anything, though.
So you guys feel free to reminisce about the neat stuff you’ve seen on Lemmy over the past year and I’ll happily be reminded of all the stuff I’ve forgotten.
The how to not poop for three days post!
Dare I ask?
The original seems deleted. Here’s an /r copy https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/1abactb/i_need_to_survive_for_3_days_without_pooping_and/
Wtf? What a happy person they’d be around after 3 days of not shitting.
Has it been a year already?
Not quite for most people here, but for the server and domain, yep!
Happy anniversary! Thanks for all the background work you and lodion do to keep our little corner of the web alive.
I’s surprised to see this post on Melbs daily chat, but it makes a lot of sense, being the biggest spot for a shindig on aussie.zone! :)
You’re right - I probably should make it a post in Meta or something. At 1am though, I was on my way to bed. I couldn’t think of anything to really justify as a post. This thread is where I usually put my little musings.
As for the work, I don’t think either of us would say we do all that much. I sure don’t. I respond to reports, clean up spam and vet the new applications, hoping to keep spammers and bots away. Maybe 10-15 minutes a day, often less.
Otherwise I use Lemmy like anyone else.
Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
Cocoa pops please. Saving the eggs for cooking (assuming a shortage)
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I’m sure I’ll be burned at the stake for this but mushroom soup and toast please!
🍄🍲🍞
You’re good as long as you’re not asking me for soda
Happy Anniversary cake and tea please!
🎂☕️
Morning chef! Could I please get… My salary expectations met?
🏦
A bottle of bubbly and some termites please
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I never quite got around to having my breakfast, so just had it for dinner. Fried eggs with zucchini & corn fritters, served with a blend of red wine pickled tomato and mushroom with marinaded fetta. It was very yummy.
That’s quite a meal for any time of the day.
Yum. I love corn fritters.
I skipped dinner last night so I could get an early night. I did manage 9.5 hours, but starting the trip off with 4ish has absolutely screwed me over. I’m still really tired ☹️
The best Aussie bop, hands down
Clip reminds me of They might be Giants - Birdhouse in your soul https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vn_or9gEB6g
I love that band and that song, the clip is so damn good
smh
we can move forward as a species.
I’m living in the past, man. Don’t try to chain me up like The Man, man!
Might not b you first idea of Bop, but try this https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZupLIS4-i0
It’s cold and foggy in Mildura!
This looks like that lake SCP
There are no bodies in the water
You do not recognise the bodies in the water 👀
Fantastic picture
I had a dream where I made and ate a burger consisting of two hashbrowns, beetroot, lettuce, tomato, shredded carrot, grilled pineapple, and tofu with avocado and now I want to try that
Tell us how it goes!
Won’t know until at least Thursday! I’ll report back
I think it needs a sauce but yeahhhhh.
sat on soda soaked into the seat on the train so now im standing in front of some ads waiting for it to dry so i dont look like i peed myself
Ah, that sucks!
Oh bacon I’m sad to hear that but I am glad it was just soft drink. I hope the day gets better for you.
Could be worse. Our soap dispenser at work tends to clog a bit, sending ropes of white slimy goo flying in random directions, often ending up on your top (or once onto the top of the person next to me!).
Hahahaha
I once had an accident with a bottle of moisturiser in the hallway. The result was highly suspicious looking, but smelt better than that sort pf party.
👀🫢 oh dear!
Thank you. It smells like caramel. I did use up all my luck getting a job this week. A bit of standing is reasonable payment.