I didn’t make it to Fairfield, but I did go to Hawthorn and probably spent a bit more than I expected to - picked up frozen tempeh from Grand Laguna because few places have the proper stuff, splurged on some mapo tofu flavour packets (I don’t use doubanjiang enough to have it in my fridge), got some tofu to use and some to freeze (I hear it has a good texture when frozen and defrosted), bought a bougie Flinders lime, and… most excitingly of all…
…dropped $13.50 on a 30-pack of frozen Osaka Ohsho veggie gyoza from Japan. I cooked up 10 just now, but I have leftover oil in the pan and dipping sauce, so the only right thing to do here is make some more. What a travesty 😩
Whoopsy fingers slipped and I bought some more art, this time two canvas prints of the following:
https://www.etsy.com/au/listing/1609446726/sage-green-bauhaus-exhibition-poster
I’ll calm down after this and stop buying art for a while.
YOLO
I was looking at bauhaus art the other day. I reckon I could make a stencil of the face and spray bleach on a black T-shirt to make one. I’d leave out the circle, circles are a drag to make look crispy sharp… unless anyone has a laser cutter. https://99designs-blog.imgix.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/2019/02/1920px-Bauhaus-Signet.svg.png?auto=format&q=60&fit=max&w=930
I have a cricut, what were you thinking for stencil medium?
No idea tbh, I used to use slip sheeting which is kind of like the black square of plastic that came in the bottom of the original green bags but for warehousing. Being able to use a weak spray glue to stick the fabric to the stencil was best for sharp edges.
I actually have stencil material, but it feels kinda like very thin silicon. Can cut stuff up to and including balsa tho if you want choppy choppy, just sling me the pattern
Alternately i actually have iron on vinyl and fabric pens i can load in the fucker to just draw directly on a tee (works with light colours)
Hmmm. Now I’m wondering if i can 3d print an adapter to fit a bleach pen to the head and draw with that…would probably wick like a mofo though…
There’s a wide variety of refillable graffiti pens. Those folk like to use custom really hard to clean ink.
Gratitude thread!
I’m grateful for giving myself grace for royally fucking up at work that will cause a headache tomorrow (fuck the shape of 50 cent pieces for jamming the cash machine). It’s not the end of the world.
Grateful that my headache is gone for the moment
For fluffybutt
And for the 4 interviews I have this week. With any luck, on Tuesday I’ll be grateful to have a job
I am grateful for savlon antisceptic cream.
Over the last few weeks have been so uncoordinated in the gardn, kitchen, moving stuff and sharpening knifes that 100yrs ago would probably need some sort of amputation.
I love savlon so much. I use it to calm my rosacea, I use it on my hands when they are getting a bit worn from house work. On every cut.
Since it just happened so is fresh in my memory, I guess I’m grateful that my building is on fire and the firies cleared it in about 10 minutes. But that feels like cheating, so I’m grateful for the views up on the rooftop, and having a Barbie and a chat with the old LT up there
I too am grateful for firemen, but perhaps not for the same reasons as you 😉
Lol I swear I did write “isn’t”, my phone often tries to tell me I mean "don’t when I really mean “do” or vice versa, but changing “isn’t” to “is” is new
Ah, the phone did it/jk. In recent years someone bought a firemen calendar for the boss as a secret Santa/joke gift, and I swear some people checked the calendar multiple times a day but could give no answer when asked the date lol.
I am grateful for off the rack premade clothes. Sure beats processing hides, spinning wool and making clothes myself.
I’m grateful for finding an unused Brother colour laser printer for $100 on Gumtree, and lunch in the sun with a friend at friends of the earth on Smith st.
Woah, that is a very good find indeed.
Also the cheap replacement inks are about $80 for a set of four.
I’m grateful for gyoza!!! And for tram drivers that dgaf if you fare evade for a couple of stops. And for the tax return I did yesterday… and this little pack of Victorian grown hojicha that a colleague gave me.
I’m grateful to have got some decluttering done and cleared quite a few boxes from storage. I have a hard time parting with stuff for a number of reasons, so this was a big deal for me. Still heaps to go but it’s good progress.
I’m grateful for being able to catch up with a friend yesterday to celebrate my birthday.
Was nice to get out and be social but it was still deathly cold.
I bought some jonquils yesterday and they’re like little patches of sunshine throughout the house, brightening my mood. I’m also grateful for lazy Sundays, crosswords, tea, and blankets.
I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads and for generally being a calm person. Elder said the other day that he misses me being around during the day “because you’ve got this aura of calm around you.” 🥹This is one of the nicest things he’s ever said to me, to anyone.
Those orchids are beautiful! I’m grateful for the abundance of movies, tv and books available so easily without leaving home. It’s nice to chill out at home on a Sunday afternoon and pick entertainment on a whim.
Is anyone here into modern spirituality stuff? Was supposed to go to this cool thing in Brunswick today, like an expo, but I can’t because of the migraine.
Been really trying to find that community and I’m pretty heartbroken that I can’t go to this expo 😔😔😔
My mum is extremely spiritual, I grew up learning how to do tarot readings, which crystals have certain energies, aura readings, palm readings, etc.
I don’t believe any of it, all it did was exacerbate her schizophrenia lol.
There is a crystal shop on Sydney Rd now though, and I bought a small garnet because they’re pretty. My inner magpie loves crystals and stones. If you have a specific crystal in mind, I can have a look for you! Let me know!
I’d like something green to go with my big amethyst and citrine. Just a colour thing.
They have malachite, Moldavite, and serpentine, from memory. Ill pop down this week and see what they have in stock. I guess it depends what kind of green lol
blue carbon cubic
That’s fancy as! I don’t think they have that. Maybe a jewellery shop will. But I’ll check this week anyway; I tend to go for walks along Sydney Road so I’ll check :D
@Gibsonisafluffybutt @Seagoon_ I am vaguely Quaker. Humanistic agnostic and very moderate, but still believe the universe is a mystery. My wife is lapsed catholic and dabbles in psychic and magic practises.
Ahmadi, Sufi, Wahabi, Shiite, Sunni are all denominations of islam I believe. I heard the call to prayer a few times, but even if we’re to revert to Islam, it would be as humanistic agnostic progressive lukewarm sort of Muslim. “Almost Muslim” would be a new denomination I think.
“Almost Muslim”? You can’t be half pregnant mate.
@CEOofmyhouse56 a “Almost Muslim” is an emerging new denomination indeed. I saw an episode of ‘insight’ on SBS where people identified as non-practising Muslim or cultural Muslim. I guess it is to be expected in liberal democracy that moderate and progressive beliefs are tolerated to some extent. The Sydney mardi-gras had a christian float recently. religion can and does change over time. The scientific calender etc.
I’m guessing a cultural Muslim means you pretend to practise for the sake of the family. That doesn’t make you a Muslim. Unless cultural Muslim means something else.
My husband was born a Muslim. He does not practise Islam nor does he identify as Islamic but he respects their beliefs.
@CEOofmyhouse56
I guess the meaning of ‘Cultural Muslim’ depends on your intention. My wifes family are Cultural catholics which I understand to mean they are raised in the culture of catholicism with all its history, language and practise, but they are not church regulars.
I too would love to know what modern spirituality actually consists of. There are plenty of options on offer out there. My problem with what passes for modern ‘spirituality’ is that the people that do it can degenerate into candle-waving idiots very quickly. Ripe for exploitation by influencers and other profiteers. I very much distrust anything that requires me to buy something to be ‘spiritual’. I’m including christianity in this list, and it’s a long one.
I guess the operative word here is community - cos we all need at least one as we are pack/herd animals at a very basic level. Community is worth seeking out but comes in a lot of different flavours and uses a lot of different jargons. I’m all in favour of researching the topic personally, but would encourage you to keep your brain cells engaged while you do so. There will be other events like this expo - there are too many fools out there ready to spend their money on shit.
I was just interested in gaining a better understanding of it myself. I’m aware of the “woo-woo” crunch insanity that proliferates in those circles. I’m agnostic, and the only people who I can find that are of a similar persuasion tend to collect at those sorts of events.
Before the “fall”, that used to be my community. I can’t say I belived everything that was popular in that world, but I enjoyed the open minded-ness of the people I met through it. I ended up engaged to someone from that world.
The “Metal Community” here is pretty fucking racist, despite what some may say. So I don’t do so well there. That’s the only other subculture that I would like to be a part of.
The new age hippies are pretty chill when it comes to race.
As it currently stands, I belong no-where. And I’m capable of sniffing out snake oil salesmen/women.
What do you think modern spirituality is? Philosophically, stoicism and buddhism have all the answers I need.
I’ve found a big part of the spirituality community is guru-type guys trying to spirituality their way into young girls pants and a bunch of women burned by said guru-guys. Eg, confest creeps, anyone ever met a guy who goes by Quoll?
I have ZERO time for reiki, tarot, psychics or anything to do with crystal energy. I think it’s nonsense and avoid getting to know “believers”. I’m not interested in debate with someone so off the deep end of reality, I feel they’re akin to flat-earthers.
These days the whole eat healthy food --> crunchy parents --> right-wing nutjob pathway seems very prevalent. Many of my loose bush doof friends have started talking about satanists taking over and the need to protect ourselves from the government. One mate called the whole Trump trail a false flag because Trump was going to reveal the truth about “how it all works”. The anti-government / right-wing view come thick and strong.
I’ve grown up Buddhist but have left the community. I’m fine handling my relationship with the universe on my own terms. There’s no shortage of self-directed study material. I have zero belief in an afterlife.
As I replied further up the thread, it’s an investigative process. I used to be a part of that community a very long time ago before I chose to throw my life away for about 10 years.
I grew up in a muslim household, and if people knew what went on in those families, they would understand when I say I don’t generally associate with that crowd. Similar to how you feel about Buddhists.
I can’t speak for the predatory behaviour, because back in the early 2000’s it was all bush doofs and lsd. Or maybe I didn’t notice.
I’m surprised to hear that a portion of that community has turned towards the right wing. I hadn’t heard that before. That’s actually fucking insane. Maybe they’re not as anti-racist as I had assumed.
As for the “woo-woo”, I don’t particularly subscribe to much of that, but I am agnostic, and find that crowd at least willing to discuss things around that idea. Can’t say I’ve had any luck finding people into that sort of thing in the circles I’ve travelled the last 8 or so years. I don’t subscribe to Identity Politics, so I’m generally unwelcome in Progressive circles despite being left wing myself.
Appreciate the info though.
I’m surprised to hear that a portion of that community has turned towards the right wing.
I think even they don’t know it themselves. The podcast “Conspirituality” is pretty good at investigating this stuff, from what I hear. I think it’s a distinctly post-Trump thing that went into overdrive with Covid. Distrusting the lockdown and vaccine measures opened up huge swathes to hardcore rightwing communities that were ready to suck them in and provide them with a sense of community in a time of crisis overriding rational thought (which was unfortunately the basis of many hippie groups in the first place tbh).
Not subscribing to identity politics is also a hard one with progressive circles as you mentioned.
Every “scene” has its downside tbh, especially if you have a difficult past and/or are not white. It’s an everyday task to rewire the brain to allow moments of belonging and areas of common ground to sink in, vs the sometimes disproportionate amount of attention given to the moments of not-belonging. Hard to not be hyper vigilant and to trust. Trying to seek a community in that frame of mind is difficult…
I have ZERO time for reiki, tarot, psychics or anything to do with crystal energy. I think it’s nonsense and avoid getting to know “believers”. I’m not interested in debate with someone so off the deep end of reality, I feel they’re akin to flat-earthers.
You’d hate my mum hahahah! I do! 😂
Not my thing but I noticed these events get suggested pretty heavily on Facebook and Eventbrite. If the thing in Brunswick has a Facebook event all the suggested events should be pretty similar.
There are also these witchy markets on semi regularly, but they move around. There might be one on near you soon
Awesome! Appreciate it mate. That’s one of the reasons I want to move back to Brunswick after 30 years away. So much interesting stuff to suss out.
Living here has been amazing, couldn’t recommend it enough tbh.
I miss it so much, but got priced out a long time ago. If this job comes through, I’ll be moving back asap.
bloody hell. Good days work there, considering how hard I went yesterday.
Concrete pile moved, future food garden area cleared to the point where I can take out the last of those bloody stupid brick and concrete dividers, both green bins filled and a spillover barrel. 10K steps well and truly in, so I’mma gonna eat a giant bag of chips and watch a shitload of WWDITS w00t w00t
Beautiful day for some gardening. I love to work through all the things that are pissing me off with a few hours’ hard work outside, and a full green bin is very satisfying.
oh we have so much clearing to do we literally had to order another green bin as we work through it all. Once we’re set even the green bin won’t get much use, but there’s just too much to deal with atm
The worst part of a migraine, is when it subsides, you’re in a state of hypervigilance in case it returns.
Bed, cat, iPad games and feeling sorry myself for today I think lol
Which games? Always interested in trying new ones!
On my phone I have Peglin and Slice and Dice. Peglin is a peg/ball, roguelite/like, rpg. Slice and Dice is similar but dice rolls instead of pegs. Iirc they’re like $10 each on the Play Store and that’s it. You get the full game. I think they’re also on PC.
Card Games: I have Slay the Spire on my phone which is a cool game. Again, pay once and you own it.
These games don’t have any micro transactions or anything. I play them all the time! Especially since my partner is using my PC to play Stellaris lol.
Not sure if they’re on the Apple Store though, sorry…
I’m playing this game called Breach Wanderers. It’s like Slay the Spire, but more variety. I’m not usually into this kind of game, but it’s really good and kind of addictive lol
I also play a game called Triple Town. I don’t think it’s on the play store anymore. If you check it out and like it, I’ll send you the installation file. Really, really good.
Everybody’s doin’ a brand new dance now
C’mon baby do the loco-motivation
I know you’ll get to like it if you get off the couch now
C’mon lazy bones do the loco-motivation 🎶Sunday! It’s quiz time!
45/50 - best ever score due to some lucky guesses.
45/50 here too. The UN question got me!
I disagree, it should be a day as that is very important in world history
I heartily endorse your NOMination.
30/50 oof
Also 30, my guesses were not as lucky.
15/50, ouch. No idea about sports.
I uhhh… Got 5/50
🥄
I got 10/50. At least the bald bloke thinks I’m good at other things though
30/50. I don’t do well on aussie knowledge
35 oof damned sports questions
Your reminder that Spicks and Specks is on tv tonight. The one show a week that justifies the tv antennas continued existence.
I see a lot of partnered people making some big compromises for various reasons…for the kids, for finances, because they are scared to be “alone”.
At this point in my life with control over my own space and what I do, it would really have to take someone extraordinary to feel as though they were adding to my life rather than me making big sacrifices.
And honestly the thought of trying to date in the hope of that elusive someone feels like a very big gamble with poor odds. If you enjoyed dating and meeting new people, the process even though you don’t win might be bearable, but I don’t really care for it tbh.
@wscholermann @Seagoon_ Fatherhood means - after a while you prefer the crust. All relationships involve some form of compromise. It takes a lifetime to find a good one and maintain it. My marriage and family life is worth it. I see more material on throuples and other arrangements, but that stuff is for my kids gen to work out - looks like a lot more work
Love makes you compromise. Love makes you sacrifice. If you have love for one another those things are easier.
100% agree. Life is full of compromise.
A person who loves you would never ask for compromises on important things like belief, children, vocation. etc
I don’t know. I think there’s room to compromise on everything.
Here’s an example. One person I know has a husband that smokes and has no intention of quitting, and now their children also smoke.
I wouldn’t even get into a relationship with a smoker to begin with because for me that’s a deal breaker. Same with any other substance abuse problem.
I’m on the other side of the fence.
Heartbreak and wasted time is a small price to pay for finding someone to share your life and love with.
Our society values individualism to such a degree, that the idea of sacrificing something for someone you love seems unfair or that you’re “losing” something.
I’ve noticed it with people I’ve dated that are western. Nothing wrong with it, it’s just different.
But it never sat well with me. Seems a bit transactional…
Admittedly my culture is different, so that’s probably why I don’t mind compromise. In a way, it’s an expected part of life. And so we work with that instead of fighting it.
That said, there are fundamental aspects of who I am that I cannot compromise on. Because if I did, I’d end up resenting the person I’m supposed to love.
/mild rant
The thing is, compromise doesn’t always start out as effort. Early on in a relationship (or maybe youth is a factor?) it can feel easy to work with differences. And then over the years as we grow and mature sometimes our wants, needs and habits evolve and set firmer. Our world view can change, our life goals can change. But you might still love the person you’re with so you continue to try and make it work. Sometimes that works out and the relationships stays strong, sometimes it doesn’t. I think if I was starting over again at my age I too would be a lot less flexible in what I wanted in a partner. I know myself better.
The other reason why people might stay in non-perfect relationships is that the way our society works, it’s centred around a couple being the primary relationship unit. So doing things like housing, child rearing, holiday companion, someone to help if you’re sick, someone to chat to if you had a bad day at work, etc, are all often done with a partner. Without a partner it can be hard work to build a network that can fill those roles, or you have to be happy to do it on your own. So yes there’s compromises, but if the partners value the companionship enough they may choose to tolerate the annoyances and personality differences.
I mean what is the difference in your mind between olerating a minor annoyance versus a major compromise?
If this stage in life is not conducive to a relationship, or is pleasant enough without one, then you’re under no obligation to have one, regardless of the opinions of family and friends. I have a lot of regrets over how little time of my younger life I’ve really lived for me.
Otherwise, I think the important thing is to find someone who wants the same as you, no matter what that is. If you’re a “meet in the middle,” compromising person then it’s important that the person you’re with also has those qualities, or you’ll find you’re always the one having to be flexible, and may end up feeling taken advantage of. If you’re an individualist who wants to have a lot of independence and “room to move” within a relationship, and can’t bear the thought of “living in someone else’s pockets” then it’s vital to live true to that while that’s how your life is. A couple of friends of mine are very career forward people, spend a lot of time separate from each other due to the demands of their careers, but undeniably love and respect each other and aren’t clingy. It’s perfect for them. How do you know how it’s going to be with someone? You don’t always, or you think you know people but then they change, or you find out things you didn’t know. The arrival of children can complicate things that before seemed much simpler and more straightforward.
I sacrificed a lot for someone who hurt me for over 8 years, in varying ways. I grew up abused and it set me up for abuse later on because I had no idea what was normal. I almost had a kid with the cunt (thank fuck I made my own money and bought a plan b pill).
But I would never let myself do that again. I know so much more now, about people, the world, and right and wrong. I got extremely lucky my one-night-stand turned out to be my person. We’re better together than we are separately. But if I hadn’t of met my current partner, I think I’d still be single after leaving my ex. Dating seems so dangerous now for vagina-owners (what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite).
I’d never change myself ever again for another person. I’d compromise (like quitting smoking), but not on the big things (buying a house, having kids, etc).
what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite)
I don’t know, but it scares and confuses me too
The difficulty level of dating increases with the gay overlay as well, but for different reasons.
I wish I could sing like La Roux. But I just sound like a hippo in heat when I sing.
Still gonna do it though lol
Hippos are bulletproof
cold
home and having some decaf
I think I need to invest in some decaf. I want a warm coffee but if I drink one now I’ll never sleep.
Been forcing some daffodil bulbs in water to hopefully get some indoor winter blooms. They seem to be growing well, looking forward to flowers in a couple weeks. It’s way easier than I thought and would recommend it as a project if you’ve got a sunny spot for them. Might try tulips next.
We’ve done this with hyacinth bulbs before.
We watched some old episodes of Ready Steady Wiggle from 10 years ago and the new episodes are so much better. They’re more cohesive and have better pacing.
There are 8 wiggles in the main lineup now, it makes me wonder if there’s a US wiggles branch.
If not, Anthony should take the Trans-Siberian Orchestra approach and have two groups of the wiggles that just tour each coast up and down.
It would make more than enough to set everyone involved with the wiggles up for retirement
