Or do you prefer other adjectives? Do you consider it to be insulting or do you take it for a compliment if it was meant as one? (Assume an amenable relationship between the two people, not a random stranger or creeper)
Or do you prefer other adjectives? Do you consider it to be insulting or do you take it for a compliment if it was meant as one? (Assume an amenable relationship between the two people, not a random stranger or creeper)
Cute used to describe a person? May work out in some cases, but in most it really will not for various reasons. She may feel you’re infantilizing her, you don’t find her appealing as a woman or appealing for the wrong reasons, you belittle her …
As many wrote, used to describe her choices it’s perfectly fine though.
If you’re looking for a way to express how this person makes you feel - for example a continuous stream of “awwwww” may be expressed by calling someone cute - rather describe your feeling: “I could fawn over you all day.” Ideally you also explain why, so it’s clear where this is coming from: “The way you dress is a perfect compliment to your outgoing personality. I really enjoy just watching you exist.”
Depending on who you want to be to this person and how far along on that road you are, my examples may work or be entirely out of question.
Serious question from an autistic dude who is awful at this kind of thing. If you are genuinely attracted to a person and are interested in dating them is it wrong to just state that outright then? Because I see plenty of women where I like their dress, or their hair color etc. but that doesn’t mean I’m actually attracted to them. I suppose simply stating “I find you very attractive” might be best as it is just all encompassing?
Since attractive just refers to outer features, if you’re interested only physically, that’s fine. If you want a relationship, pick something that describes your person of choice better or encompasses more features.
“I think you’re amazing, would you like to grab a coffee/dinner with me sometime?” would probably work.
If you choose to be this direct, make it clear you don’t need an immediate response. The other party didn’t have any time to prepare for this, so they may actually need to think about you in this way first of all. This may be the hardest part, because you will not know if you’ll get a reply (depends on maturity and courage). You could ask them again once, but then I’d drop it and just assume it’s a no, otherwise you may come across as pushy.
The reason most people don’t do this is, that they’re scared to be turned down or ridiculed (teenagers are assholes). I think from 30 onwards it gets a lot clearer and easier.
Good luck!
It unfortunately does not, lol. The caring about being rejected does, but other problems crop up, like meeting people in the first place.
For instance, I don’t use apps, I don’t frequent bars, and I don’t want to get HR on my ass (everyone at my job is married or like 19 anyway). So where do I meet someone? Hobbies. Ok, well my hobbies are reading, walking around in the woods looking at cool nature stuff like frogs and salamanders, and going to (music) shows. Maybe I could meet someone at a show, but mostly it’s loud and not conducive to conversation, and nobody wants to talk to strangers in a book store or library, and they’d rather meet a bear in the woods than me as we all know lmao.
Basically I haven’t been doing this because I don’t want to be creepy, but I’m thinking about just saying fuck it and throwing out a “hey you look cool, wanna go grab some coffee sometime?” just whenever, wherever the situation arises, and then get to know if I think she’s amazing over time (if we continue, yadda yadda you know how it goes). I mean what else do I have left? And by whenever, wherever I don’t just mean Shakira’s hit, I mean anywhere, including but not limited to common places where it is often complained about like the grocery store, book store, where she works, just anywhere.
But yeah, anyway, things change when you get older, some things get easier but some get harder. Know where I used to meet women (well, girls)? School. And after that I had a stint in the bars. Back then I was afraid of the rejection sure but never questioned where to meet people. My flip has now flopped, however.