Further information on the situation with the transphobia: Abigail has repeatedly misgendered me and defended her choice by saying she chooses to refer to all people of unknown gender as male.

Hey, Abigail here. I just want people to know the reason this person got banned is likely because of a deleted comment not included in that thread. OP called me ~~autistic ~~ mentally unwell for not liking politics. THAT kind of behavior is not acceptable on lemmy.blahaj.zone, so I reported the comment and let Ada handle it. Ada tried in good faith to reason with OP but it was clear they just wanted to fight. So yeah, they got banned. Ada’s a fantastic lady who’s been great at keeping the trolls at bay.

Edit: and the bit about me misgendering them is also wrong. Gender didn’t come into play until after I had left the conversation. English default on the internet is male for strangers.

Source:
https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669

WRT the statement that I accused them of autism for not liking politics, further info is available here: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2319669 https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2320815 https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/2321026

  • DroneRights [it/its]@lemm.eeOP
    1·
    1 year ago

    You’re welcome. This user is receiving a lot of support from the Blahaj community and admins and it’s very appreciated to see someone come in with the hot take that misgendering trans people is wrong

    • amethyst@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      10·
      1 year ago

      This is such a shitty way to frame it.

      I think folk should default to neutral pronouns, especially in trans safe spaces. But phrasing a failure to do so it as “misgendering trans people” is jumping straight to the most absolute bad-faith interpretation.

      Then further, saying that anyone who does it is “a transphobe” is way off base. (It reminds me of Contrapoint’s bit about essentialism)

      It’s also notable to me that you’re not asking for e.g. any change of policy here. You’re not trying to improve the way this instance is run to discourage folk from using masculine defaults.

      You’re using this incident only to wage war against someone you were already in conflict with, and assuming that anyone who steps in and criticizes your behavior is taking sides in that conflict.