Couple more optional questions
- Did the decision bring any change to your life ?
- Do you feel the decision stopped you from expressing something at some point ?
I enjoy the exercise of trying to think ahead of the words coming out of my mouth so I can speak more concisely and clearly. It’s the same reason I do calligraphy.
If you can do calligraphy ahead of the words coming out of your mouth then I am thoroughly impressed.
No calligraphy is for writing slowly and deliberately. It has helped me immeasurably
motherfucker would look great in some nice calligraphy
I’m not at all bothered by “swear words,” and I’ll use them occasionally (mostly when I think it’s funny), but it’s somewhat rare. I just don’t find it very necessary most of the time. I can usually make my point just find without, but sometimes the emphasis seems right out, again, it seems funnier.
I had a phase as a teen when I was constantly swearing. My parents told me that, it can’t be that bad and it’s really annoying.
And it’s mostly an impulse reaction and we’re kind of above that.
It doesn’t mean that you can’t express pain or anger. You’re just not insulting people’s ears if you scream “Aaaaah” when you bang your toe against a table leg or something. And your environment really doesn’t deserve it. Most people are somewhat compassionate and you’re just swearing while they try to help… that’s not a pleasant environment for them to be in. It makes it harder to help you.
No to both questions. I just made a change and that was it. And it has never stopped me from expressing anything.
If anything, it lends more weight to the regular words.
A _______ criminal? Or a criminal?
You can still put the same emotion into the words, they’re just not swear words. :)
And your environment really doesn’t deserve it. Most people are somewhat compassionate and you’re just swearing while they try to help… that’s not a pleasant environment for them to be in. It makes it harder to help you.
What are you trying to say here? Your environment doesn’t deserve to hear swearing? Yeah my coffee table and my cat really care when they hear me say fuck lol.
What kind of help are you talking about? What is this scenario you’re imaging here? I’m beyond confused, this shit makes absolutely no sense. In what world does hearing a swear word make it harder to do anything, unless you’re a Mormon (or some other dumbass religion) and hearing words like that cause you to actually collapse and writhe on the floor like a possessed banshee?
This whole take comes across as some out of touch boomer nonsense.
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Just never saw the need for it.
I still swear online, but I try not to do it aloud anymore because I accidentally dropped an f-bomb in front of a customer. I’m not bothered by them, and I don’t get why other people are, so I don’t think about it and get careless.
If people know you as someone who doesn’t swear, when you do swear they will take note of what you’re saying.
Fuck yeah!
I just save it up.
It’s like yelling. Nobody pays attention if you do it all the time.
It was a cycle for me:
Not swearing led to swearing.
Swearing led to learning to swear in other languages.
Learning to swear in other languages served me well as I moved out of North America to teach.
Being out of North American led to me being more humble and less the brash North American. Also, I spent a lot of time with children.
Being less brash and speaking in other languages led me to think more about what I say before saying it.
Thinking about my speech led to downgrading swearing to make a point. I’ll swear, depending on the audience.
Specifically — like L-Boogie said — “I’ll add a MFer so you ign’ant ****s hear me.” (Fugees, The Score, “Zealots”) If I’m cursing, it’s prolly because there’s some ignorance in my area.
I admit, sometimes it’s mine.
Also, the irony is not lost on me that L fell off not too long after this rhyme. Celebrity culture can be a scene full of ignorance. I don’t blame her. I blame the industry.
Two reasons:
- I live in Utah, where the Mormons are, and they get very offended by swearing. Although there are some ways in which I will definitely not accommodate their religious beliefs, I also think it’s healthy to meet other people at their comfort level (if it’s reasonable to do so). On the one hand, I understand the idea that we shouldn’t have to change who we are in order to make other people comfortable. On the other hand, I do think that if you take that idea too far, it can be a kind of antisocial behavior. When in Rome, as they say.
- It has more impact if you don’t do it often. Think about a Quentin Tarantino movie. By the time Samuel L. Jackson has said “fuck” for the 157th time, you’re just used to it. The word doesn’t even stand out anymore. But now consider the end of The Princess Bride, which has one swear word in the entire movie: “I want my father back you son of a bitch.” WHA-BAM! Hits like a freight train every time!
For the follow-up questions, kind of the same answer to both of them. I feel like not swearing – or, swearing less – requires me to be more precise when I’m criticizing something. Instead of just saying that something was “like shit”, I have to give a more specific criticism. So that’s the change that it has made, and no, it hasn’t stopped me from expressing something.
I like your second point, I had never thought of it this way. It’s like when your parents call you by your full name. You know you are in trouble.
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My parents both didn’t swear (at least not where I could hear them) so I simply never picked up the habit. I can swear if I make a conscious effort to do so, but generally only find reason to if I am quoting someone or something. And even that feels awkward to me.
As for expressing myself, I don’t believe I have much trouble in that regard. There are a ton of other words available and ways to arrange them. And if I truly need to express anguish, rage, etc. there is always yelling or screaming.
I choose to swear because sometimes words aren’t enough otherwise. When faced with the horrors of this world, sometimes a good “fucking” paired with whatever garbage is just appropriate. As in, “this fucking society.”
I was told people who swear sounded less intelligent. It made me not want to do it. I swear rarely, usually if I’m quoting someone. I swear a little more liberally in text, but not very often.
Because swear words are, to me, an expression of anger or irritation. Swearing would therefore reinforce angry mindstates.
Yes, this was both very helpful for my mind, i’m happy and calm most of the time, and others appreciate it too and are happy to be around me.
It didn’t stop me from expressing anything. It just makes me pause to think of a better, kinder way to express myself, without making other people angry. It helps communicating with other people in a more friendly, helpful way. When i would be angry, it would be hard to listen to other people.
Interesting point, I might start doing this. Challenge myself to find more inventive words to express myself.
I use them when warranted, which isn’t very often. I don’t think the avoidance of using swears is a religious thing, it’s a language/cultural thing. For some reason they’re just deemed “bad words”. They exist in almost all languages and cultures as far as I know.
A good friend of mine swears a lot unless kids are around. I don’t mind it, but he’s sort of “that guy” because of it. If he was someone I just met, I’d think he’s just a bit lowbrow and that’s about it. I wouldn’t think poorly of anyone because of it as long as their attitude is good.
