• weker01@sh.itjust.works
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      3 months ago

      Do it the German way and just trauma dump. I mean if they didn’t care they shouldn’t have asked.

      In Germany “how are you” is also smalltalk but you are not expected to lie. Just keep it short.

      “Wie geht’s?”

      “Nicht so gut gerade und bei dir?”

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        3 months ago

        People do that to me all the time. I just seem to radiate safety and people dump everything. I get that they need it, and sometimes (when I’m in a good headspace) I’m happy to provide an outlet for people who need one, but it gets really exhausting. I don’t even like small talk, I only bother with pleasantries because I’m supposed to, apparently.

        (That trauma dumping is totally not the norm around here…)