• SCB@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Literally the first thing I would do when I got dumped is go fuck someone else.

    It’s absurd to break up with someone and expect them to not go live their life.

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      1 year ago

      That’s perfectly fair, but don’t expect the original person to want to get back together with you then. It’s not about whether it was ok for him to have sex with that girl, it’s whether or not Rachel was justified to not want to get back together because of it. Which she was. And he knew it, or he wouldn’t have immediately tried to hide it.

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        1 year ago

        I wouldn’t date someone so weird about sex, but Rachel was wrong here as she is most of the time, because her arc is her learning how to be a functioning person

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        1 year ago

        i think it is more like emotional distance?

        its creepy to intentionally not be with someone else after a breakup because there is some weird lingering feelings. like get over it move on

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          One day after breakup you will have some lingering feelings and hooking up with someone else just to suppress them is not a healthy reflex I think. Especially if the other person doesnt know youre with them just to strike a “hit” and feel less shitty with yourself.

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            1 year ago

            I’ve been in breakups where I immediately got with someone else and I’ve been in breakups where I wanted to take some time on my own afterwards. Feelings are complicated and there’s no right answer to every situation.

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            1 year ago

            It’s not healthy, but rebounds are perfectly understandable. Like getting drunk alone after a break up

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        1 year ago

        No I view being dumped as something that makes me sad and getting laid as a shot in the arm that cures the sads for a little bit so I don’t become a mopey fuck