Just discovered Lemmy while browsing for Reddit alternatives, so let’s break the ice with this first post.

  • dhcmrlchtdj__@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    I’m interested to hear more about how you worked through your husbands affair, if you’re open to talking about it

    • jadepagoda@lemmy.worldOP
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      3 days ago

      Sure. I found out about it from some mutual friends. Honestly my first reaction was, what a dumbass… if you’re going to cheat at least do it smartly and properly so that no soul knows about it. Funnily enough at first I was more disappointed in him for being stupid, I believed he was an intelligent man. I wanted to know every detail and he came clean about everything. Cut off all contact with that woman and put in the work to rebuild trust… a bit of a surveillance period. Either way, I knew I would never leave him just over a one time stray away; but of course he couldn’t know this. I appreciated he didn’t lie when confronted about it or try to victimize himself, justify it, make excuses, etc. He was very frank.