I had a discussion recently with someone about this. Since we don’t really celebrated our birthdays we weren’t sure what’s “normal “.
The only celebrating I do is eating slightly more unhealthy, take the day off work unless it’s going to be a short day, and maybe look to see if any games in my “maybe if it’s on steep sale” list are on sale.
That’s it.
I don’t remind people, I dont expect anyone to remember, but it’s nice when they do.
My excuse for missing people’s birthdays is I DO know the date… I just don’t know what the date today is. Sure I know my sister was born on the 12th, but that doesn’t matter if I think today is the 10th and it’s actually the 15th…
So if I have that much problem, it wouldn’t be very chill to be upset with others for missing mine.
I barely remember my birthday.
I think the last time I celebrated any holiday was buying some champagne when Kissinger died.
Nobody knows my birthday.
For adults unless your throwing a party, it’s not something that comes up.
I do my best to not telling anyone so only a few people know. I’m allergic to pointless social interactions and that is one of them for me. At my job nobody knows.
If they’re close friends and family I definitely expect them to remember. It’s a good indicator of who I can trust in my life as well, those who usually remember just also happen to be on the trustworthy list.
We’ve been debating whether someone remembering a birthday is a reflection of how much they care or not.
Remembering birthdays is a reflection of how much someone cares about birthdays. There’s no need to read anything more into that.
Many people (this thread is an example) are either completely indifferent to birthdays or even dislike them. To us (I’m indifferent) birthdays are totally pointless and basically a fact related to identification, like a student number or social insurance number. I remember my student and social insurance number because I have to, in order to function at school and in society. I don’t ask anyone else’s student numbers because it’s entirely pointless and useless information to me.
I don’t particularly like celebrating birthdays or holidays so I definitely do not expect anyone to remember. I also avoid telling my birthday whenever I can evading as I can. That being said I throw peoples birthday into my cal as I discover them so I can be congnizant of them since most people do celebrate that stuff. If you want to impress me though get me a really relevant gift out of the blue that you got for free, made, or was just a steal of a deal. or a handmedown. don’t be like seinfeld though and lie to me on how cheap you got the thing as the experience should be authentic.
All my friends remember when by about +/-3 days. Every year I invite everyone to meet for food and drinks one night.
I plan on not celebrating my birthday and only bring it up if conversation happens to lead there, or if somebody asks. Usually somebody remembers and offers a dinner or to hang out. Not a fan of big parties! Too much hubbub.
Neither.
IDGAF if anyone remembers, and I ain’t reminding anyone.
About the only thing I care about regarding my birthday is being allowed to nap without interruption lol.
Let them know for those that I want to know get together with. Otherwise if they remember … great, if not no big deal.
I couldnt care less. I never understood how people would be angry at others for forgetting their birthdays. Its just a damn anniversary…
I expect my mother and identical twin to remember my birthday. I hope my husband remembers, but would not be upset if he didn’t. (He’s never forgotten)
I guess it also depends on culture. In Latinamerica many people consider birthdays a big deal so forgetting it would be considered a faux pas.
For me personally I care if my partner and close friends remember, coworkers, my dentist, etc. I don’t give a damn but if they so happen to congratulate me or send a gift or whatever, I thank them graciously and try to correspond in the same manner when it is theirs.
For example, my yoga teacher found out about my birthday because SO sent me flowers to the studio so I could enjoy myself starting the day, so said teacher gifted me a box of my favorite incense. It was a nice touch but definitely due to circumnstances. I enjoyed it nevertheless. So now I will be getting her a nice beautiful plant for her balcony.
Neither. Its just another nail in the coffin/ thread on the urn lid
HAHA No, I don’t expect them to remember, and I don’t remind them. In August I’ll be 47 I haven’t had a birthday party, gift, or card since I was maybe 25, the year my mother passed away. I’ve been married for 21 years. Not to be clear, my wife does say “Happy birthday”. But she’s not really a gift giver type of person.
But she’s not really a gift giver type of person.
not even a bday blowie?
Not to share too much, but that type of gift doesn’t require it being my birthday.
