We spend our days bound by endless obligations. Yet, even with loneliness, failed relationships, and soul-draining work, people still manage to catch a glimpse of happiness. Why?

  • Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de
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    3 days ago

    How does something afterwards change the meaning of this in a good way?

    Why fight for justice? E.g. the bible says god will judge and that i shouldn’t. So if I just don’t care about anything here but about god, I might have a bad time now but eternal happiness later. How meaningless is now this here? Everything is transactional. The love that you gave is for the sake of getting some much much more valuable later.

    Why do people find happiness even in the worst situations? Because it is the only way to deal with it. We are made for survival and survival requires the willingness to survive. It doesn’t matter if you are the strongest fighter, if you don’t even want to fight back. Your desires come from survival needs.

    And a little extra bit, there might not be a point in living. It might be meaning less. But I personally want to be happy. I just do. So everyday I work towards being happy. As I personally love my family and friends, I wish them to be happy. I just do. As my friends have family and friends, and their happiness is somewhat linked to their family and friends happiness, I want all of them to be happy too. And so on. As I can relate to the joy of being proud of oneself, I want them to feel that joy. And so on. None of this is objectively meaningful, I just like it that way. And I might be an asshole but I don’t care if you agree with me, I want you feeling happy and fulfilled. Deal with it.

  • tazzy@lemm.ee
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    4 days ago

    Enjoy the ride.

    There is no point. The point is that you experienced life at all, the most rarest thing in this universe perhaps. Most people don’t even stop to think how amazing that is. Going outside and smelling fresh air, drinking water, laughing, crying.

  • Obinice@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    There is no point, we don’t exist for a reason, we’re just a thing that happened in the universe by random chance.

    That’s not an inherently bad thing though, heck, the concept of “bad” isn’t even “real”, it’s just an invention we came up with.

    But I digress. We must find out own purpose and meaning in life, it won’t be handed to us. Think of the journey as a fun ride with no rules, there are no gods, the universe doesn’t judge you, you are unique and weird and amazing and can interact with the universe in ways no gigantic star or powerful black hole ever could.

  • babyincubi@beehaw.org
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    4 days ago

    There is no point, you make it yourself. And plenty of people manage to catch a glimpse of happiness because there’s plenty to be happy about.

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    4 days ago

    Something doesn’t have to exist forever to have meaning, that seems like a holdover from utopic afterlife religious indoctrination.

    We can enjoy a movie or a lunch knowing it will end, I can pursue meaning and find multiple purposes throughout a lifetime.

  • Truffle@lemmy.ml
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    4 days ago

    Paraphrasing something I read somewhere “Do we open a book just to close it again?” That for me, it means that it is not merely for doing something that we exist, but to tell stories, to pass on knowledge, to keep rituals alive, to be a vessel for something beyond ourselves. The important part, same as books, is to tell stories. Everything sparks from there.

  • That_Devil_Girl@lemmy.ml
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    4 days ago

    The point is whatever we choose for ourselves. Just because we eventually die doesn’t mean living isn’t worth it. I don’t care that one day I’ll eventually die, I enjoy living now.

  • Magnus@lemmy.ml
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    4 days ago

    I like laughing and having sex (which I definitely have a lot of all the time I swear)

  • SuluBeddu@feddit.it
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    4 days ago

    Your single existence might be ephemeral, but humanity isn’t, your community isn’t, and possibly your family either

    Individualism breaks that sense of purpose, and it teaches us that happiness is made by personal enjoyment of often exclusive activities

    If we lose trust in our community or in humanity in general, if we imagine the next person to only care about themselves, basivally if we expect individualism from others, we lose hope of feeling a more community-oriented form of happiness! And unfortunately in many places that situation is expected, because people are often indeed individualistic

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      4 days ago

      Your single existence might be ephemeral, but humanity isn’t, your community isn’t, and possibly your family either

      It is though. Life has existed on this planet for just under 4 Billion years and in that time over 99% of all species to have ever come into existence have gone extinct.

      Your community & family are no less ephemeral than the life you yourself live, but you won’t get to see any of that.

      If we lose trust in our community or in humanity in general

      I never had a reason to trust them to begin with, tbh.

      • SuluBeddu@feddit.it
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        4 days ago

        Well the further you go on, the more likely it is that you find there is no point in anything, we are but a phenomenon in the universe

        But if you look closely you realise many have needs, many have desires, many want to enjoy company and experience many things, they feel a purpose in what they do

        There is a cute plot point in my fav anime, Hunter x Hunter. While the main protagonist Gon has a goal, to find his own father that left him as a baby, his best friend Killia is initially pretty nihilistic. He told his feelings about this to Gon, and he replied that, until he finds his purpose, Killua’s goal will just be to be at his side. So, basically, the friendship itself will be his purpose.

        I think the general point is that our potential nihilism is part of our character. We were never supposed to live an individuals and be self-sufficient. Finding a purpose as individuals might not be a solvable problem! We might need another person to get that purpose.

        So while “scientifically” we don’t have a purpose, as life itself is a phenomenon and our consciousness is a happy accident of that phenomenon, some people feel a purpose, they feel they want something, and others could simply tag along and find purpose in helping others with theirs.

        At least that’s my answer so far 🤌

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    4 days ago

    Your most fundamental motivations are inherently irrational/instinctual, but once you know what they are you can pursue them more deliberately. Nobody can decide for you what the meaning of your life is, you have to discover it through experience and introspection.