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  • Well, my brain seems to be affected by it according to that test (difference score of 11) if I interpret the scale correctly

    But well, I also got autism and quite a few other mental conditions and learned all my life to cope quite well with all my disabilities; that’s why I specifically outsource direction question to a visualization that make the answer more tangible for me than listening to my intuition.

    But well, what works for some doesn’t necessarily work for all. And probably my other conditions have some influence on it as well. We’re all different, after all; even if sharing a few traits.



  • I get that. My intuition often mixes both up, too.

    That’s why I trained myself to say “driver-side” and “passenger-side” in my head when left or right come up. To a point where I don’t even have to think about thinking about it. I just visualize which side of car is meant instead of the rather abstract concept of left and right

    Might not help you; but it helps me


  • Madlaine@feddit.detoScience Memes@mander.xyzBurrito
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    Well, that doesn’t mean it’s not done.

    My sister had a few (more than 20 simultaneously) rats.

    One rat got stuck with her tail in the cage, and the tail had to be amputated, or the rat would’ve died. There were a few complications during the operation, and the bill would have skyrocketed to more than 2k€. For a tiny rat.

    Needless to say, my sister insisted the operation continue. Rat lived happily for another 18 months



  • Not OP, but yeah…

    There are a few mental/neurological conditions that lead to a big adversion against ordinary recurring tasks.

    (In my case it’s PDA; but it’s something that I see across multiple neurodivergent spectrums, as well as in people with depression)




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    But yeah I’m ~235lbs/106kg guy, and I don’t like how I look most days in the mirror in a boring t-shirt and shorts, let alone trying to be desirable, so I’m kinda setting myself up mentally for disappointment. We shall see.

    Sounds like me a year ago xD

    Try find something that suits your figure; fem clothes can be quite good at camouflaging and distracting from problematic areas if one gets the right stuff.

    And it drastically boosts self image when you found clothes you feel comfortable in, even if only in certain situations.

    And my personal experience in case you don’t like your face (I didn’t, but I’ve got gender-related dysphoria in that regard): these femboy-cat-face-masks; wear them if you try out or take pictures in dresses. Allows you to focus on the clothes instead your face. After you found clothes you like with that mask on, you might take a look at some basic makeup. Nothing too fancy, but a bit of foundation, powder, minimalistic eyeshadow and mascara can do wonders.

    But essentially: Try it! Do yourself a favor and try it! I wish I would have given in sooner instead of always thinking “nah, won’t suit me anyway and I will just look like a dude in a dress”. Wearing stuff like that played a huge part in realizing who I am.

    (And it gave me a reason to loose some weight. 103kg->88kg since December)

    And obviously: Should you find out in the end that fem clothes are just not your thing; that’s fine as well! But if the idea was already in your head: try it -


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    Just do it.

    There are many large people that look beautiful. You have to search for the right clothes.

    I assume from your comment that you’re maybe a bit chubby; that’s no shame. Many chubby people look wonderful in fem clothes.

    You maybe should go for something more comfortable than the sexy secretary look, but (unless your suuuuper overweight) there will be something that’s suiting your figure. Just google some guides for transfeminine clothing and try some stuff. Many of us wanna wear feminine clothing while having similar issues. A love for food is not depending on the gender ;)

    Btw: My personal recommendation are long black skirts from the steampunk/goth/pseudo-victorian niches. They often have enough accessories and other highlights to distract; and they don’t look all that bad if one is a bit larger





  • the is_even package does not provide much worth indeed because it simply negates is_odd and thereby all its benefit.

    It’s dependency is_odd on the other hand provides at least some additional checks (it also checks if the value is a valid integer below the max int value)

    And while I would indeed see uses for such methods (especially with the other checks, no simple oneliners) in some cases, especially in testing: This is stuff you write yourself, throw it in a e.g. NumberUtils class and everything is fine. You do never depend on an external library for that. The benefit (not spending a few seconds to write it) does not outweigh any of the drawbacks that come with external libraries.




  • How you could somewhat rebase manually (to understand the effect; or because you like to handle the merge conflicts more granular or be more selective):

    We assume we have the branch “Feat” which was started on an old version of “Main”, and now want to rebase it:

    • Rename “Feat” to “Old” (does not happen during rebase, but we kinda need it for this demonstration)
    • Create “Feat” at the newest (or wherever you want) commit of “Main”
    • Cherrypick all commits from “Old” into “Feat”

    Et viola - you kinda manually rebased “Feat” on “Main”



  • It’s a (opt. Co-Op) Pokemon Survival Craft Base&Factory Building Game with Guns.

    While sometimes buggy and rough around the edges, and without offering many original ideas, the ensemble of everything they threw together is really good.

    Sure, it’s far from perfect, and every other moment, you can see the quite heavy inspirations they got from popular franchises.

    But it’s quite good.

    While not surpassing any of its inspirations in the field they got inspired in, it offers all these other things the inspirations missed.

    It’s parts may not be that good, but overall, it’s the combination of those parts that make it.