Thankfullfy just her and myself in the car, and the first time I used the phrase aloud : I once excitedly exclaimed how I loved my friend’s “thunder thighs”.

Totally thought it meant powerful thighs, like in nice and physically fit shape.

🤡

(Not long-term use, but felt the same vibe)

Definitely saw a pretty frog/lizard. I like it better that way just for fun.

That part sucks. You definitely need a non-altered screen for that. I’ve probably made some less attractive color choices now that you’ve reminded me haha.

You do you!

I saw this meme as doing something weird on both sides, so for you my meme mirror is perfect. Idk I just like the orange hue even though the day 😊🤘

I have a similar love:

I recently upgraded my RAM because it was wild how much was being used. I have to eat the cost of more RAM because sites don’t seem to minimize it at all.

It’s solitary confinement. Even with multiple in a tank, it’s just solitary-confinement-sized conditions but with bonus miserable buddies with you.

If a whale can propel itself across the tank in a few seconds, then that’s the maximum time they could ever “feel the breeze in their hair” for their life. (Swimming in circles makes that longer, but circles over and over and over messes animals up. Pony rides are an example.)

Or use $1 billion to buy ebikes for 300,000 people. No operating costs, and in 5 years you’ve replaced what would have been replaced in one year.

How much in emissions for building the facility? How much for operating costs? How much for repairs and unexpected disasters? How much in emissions from the workers driving to and from? All that money could just buy more people ebikes.

Yeah, same. I’ve accepted I just don’t have a family 😪

Now it’s all me… mostly. I’m working on it 😌

despite me explaining it over and over again.

I keep telling myself it’s useless, they refuse to understand.

… then I keep trying … T_T … in vain (15+ years of trying)… but then I try again. I just want to feel understood. I long for the family connection they’ve told me is so important my whole life .

I have bent my words over backwards and reworded them in every way possible. I’ve used articles, videos, and infographics. I have made dozens of analogies and comparisons to their own lives. I have handed them literal scripts of things they could say. I’ve ve tried everything I’ve heard of so far to try and get my family to understand me. It very much feels like I am solidly in a box to them because I see them be understanding to others, to their own family, but never receive the same compassion.

I resonate with this quote:

“Once everyone sees you as a villain, that’s what you are. They only see you one way, no matter how hard you try.”- Nimona

It’s unintentional the first times. Speak up and help them know better. If they keep doing it, ask again. If they keep doing it…

I’d be upset if my partners family was racist and insulting to people not like them. I’d be pretty frustrated that my partner lets it slide.

The Razr flip phone was my first phone. It was such a cool phone to have. Now its back, and with a lot more!

What does that mean? I don’t understand. Apps have full access to what that websites don’t?

That would be all apps then. Apps are legitimately great. Websites do the same scummy things.

Two come to mind:

If you can’t pay the property taxes every year.

If you don’t pay HOA fees or follow their rules (they have way too much power)

Why save money when the cost of everything rises exponentially faster than my savings add up?

My dad was an immigrant juat learning English. He biked to a mechanics shop and asked for a job. He got it at $8/hr. 3 months later some guy quit and the owner asked my dad to promote and now he was making $12/hr.

He bought a 4 bed 2 bath 2 car garage home on a quarter acre for $180,000.

My mom bought a similar home for $80,000 because of the bubble crash. In a very populated city, not rural. Fted Meyer (an everything store) was half a mile away.

My parents bought their last home more than 10 years ago. It’s worth almost a million now. The mortgage is $2,000. To rent a studio apartment in the same area is $1,800.

What’s there to save for?

Stop arguing if people making 150k a year should be fine.

It’s the billionaires. Look at them.

Agoraphobia is one of those things that makes itself worse. Do you have some people in your life that you’re ok with visiting? Maybe they can help dip your toes back into the pool of the public. Just walk around your building first, nothing more. Go from there and little by little

There is also virtual visits. You can have a video visit with therapists and doctors from the comfort of your desk. Yhere are free things too (people to call, services, etc), but Im not sure what’s around you.

I’ve been there. I think about 2 years of my life I wouldn’t leave the house without my mom.

This is my parents.

Showing them they defend every single critique… is a critique. I’ve emphasized in so many ways how what they did wasn’t a big deal, how I’m not mad, how it’s ok and it’s a nothing-burger. I’ve given them literal scripts of what they could say. I’ve sent articles, videos, infographics that could help them understand and ways to be able to accept that what they did was a mistake an that it won’t make them a pariah. Telling them dozens of examples of times when I or anyone else has made a mistake and then apologized and fixed it when it was pointed out and everything was fine… nothing.

They don’t change. Like you said, the critique is the problem, it’s not the problem that’s the problem to them.

Just own it, make it right, and let some time heal any embarrassment that’s felt.

Just had to vent.

Strike 1, 2, 3! Yeeeeer---- yea keep trying.

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