I saw the same post and started writing something that went in a different direction, but that seems complementary. Basically, you don’t have to respond.

I do believe you’re responsible for what you write, but you’re under no obligation to answer any and every kind of criticism that is thrown at you. You might have to read something that’s hard or hurtful in the comments, which is fine if they are trying to follow the recommendations listed above, it’s a process, but you don’t have to accept an attack to your personhood or an attack to what you wrote without any explanation.

I understand the desire to make clarifications and being clearly comprehended, or defending oneself from attacks, but a direct response might be counterproductive. Say nothing, or go back and put amends to the original thoughts with an edit.

Also, and this is for all the parts involved, the discussion is not going anywhere. It will not get drown out in a sea of comments, you can take your time and come back later. More importantly, you’ll likely see the same people around again. Take care of your community. Defend, understand, educate, be nice.

I think it’s about generating alt text for people with disabilities when they are missing from pictures.

You say suicidal thoughts, which I believe you have, but you showed us your depressive thoughts. Some times, it’s not intellectual, it’s just one aspect of your biology you can’t will away. You might need medicine, you’ll definitely need to work on it without knowing if your efforts will get results.

I saw in another comment you talking about the things you love. Choose one and really set aside some time to enjoy it. Create a period of total selfishness. Do something practical.

Intellectually, to quiet the voices that are so negative and justify bad decisions, I suggest you question them, specially when they are absolute. For example, “there’s no time to dedicate to what I love”. Really? No time, zero? Is that the absolute truth? Try to be more truthful. Maybe the time you have is not enough (but again, really?), which doesn’t mean zero time generally. Just being honest about your situation can help change perspectives and stop you believing the lies you tell yourself.

Do you enjoy watching videos? There are some professionals I regularly watch that usually help me see the directions I could go to improve myself. To tell the truth, I’m in a low right now and not being treated, but I wish I were.

I would suggest something like a “good news week”. The last week of every month dedicated to sharing the good content we have stumbled upon or experienced. Something to practice a new behavior and make it stick. I don’t believe the changes will come organically. Or maybe a weekly challenge thread, with some goals to the ones that participate. Share a good memory, uplifting news, something that made you smile…

Just commenting because you were really specific there with the chromosomes. The ID wouldn’t help with that. Doctors mostly look at the baby and decide the sex without genetic testing. Mistakes in this case are only found out if something medical happens and they need to check.

We have our “c’est moi” in Brazil as well: “eu que agradeço”. Honestly, mmhmm is what seems alien to me.

I can’t say the same. Using Firefox with arkenfox (without rmp) and uBlock Origin blocking third party.

The fact it was partially and advertisement for the company, even if indirectly, bothered me, but I thought the message seemed valid.

“If you have an outcome-based approach and you do not reach the goals, then you have to apply additional measures […] whereas now you say okay, I tried, but unfortunately, it didn’t turn out the way I wanted to,” Paulus explained.

Politicians and producers love good ideas that will attract the public’s attention, but should be tweaked just enough to not be executed as intended.

After ruining some installations and learning some more, I started questioning the fact that pyenv and some venv management are not taught at the beggining.

They probably are. That said, it’s always a good idea to ask the question: “why would people use the worse alternative?”

It does in my opinion. Put an “OK?” at the end so they can confirm. Just so they don’t see it as a meaningless offer.

I think you are in the right path by seeing a way forward both for yourself and and in relation to your niece. Also, sometimes it’s important to be explicit and say whatever may be necessary. Just saying you’ll be there for the people in need might be an opening they can explore in the future. Mostly, be open.

We will never have as much control as we might want over the tragedies of the world. What I would suggest is for you to answer the questions you asked at least and at most once. You can’t change the past, but you can learn from it.

Do it for yourself. They say writing by hand is best. What would you have done differently? What do you wish you could have done? What would you tell your nephew? What would you tell your past self?

I just realized how queer my favorites are. Mostly long form essayists, but entertainers. I’m too tired now to offer good descriptions, but they are worth it.

Jessica Kellgren-Fozard (https://www.youtube.com/@jessicaoutofthecloset) My number one feel good channel. LGBTQ+, vintage fashion, disabilities, media analysis, historical profiles, parenting tips. A lot.

Jessie Gender (https://www.youtube.com/c/lostrekkie) Nerd content, trans content, good content with kindness and nuance. Just don’t threaten her well being.

Rowan Ellis (https://www.youtube.com/@HeyRowanEllis) Media analysis focused on queer topics.

Shanspeare (https://www.youtube.com/@Shanspeare) Discussions around pop culture while being fabulous.

verilybitchie (https://www.youtube.com/@verilybitchie) Smart, funny, varied topics.

Tara Mooknee (https://www.youtube.com/@TaraMooknee) The only youtube channel written and produced by a cow.

talistheintrovert (https://www.youtube.com/@talistheintrovert) “If you like listening to people complain about things, then boy am I the channel for you!”

Princess Weekes (https://www.youtube.com/@Princess_Weekes) “Talking about pop culture, race, feminism, and other social issues with a lot of nuance and profanity.”

Khadija Mbowe (https://www.youtube.com/@KhadijaMbowe) “Cool, fun, Queer Aunty”- Their branding, “Big sister or friend their head.”- Their comment section, “A sentient garbage disposal.”- Their own words

Philosophy Tube (https://www.youtube.com/@PhilosophyTube) There’s a lot to learn, even if I personally ignore the specifics.

Maggie Mae Fish (https://www.youtube.com/@MaggieMaeFish) Perfect balance between funny and informative and unhinged. Movies from an interesting point of view.

Mia Mulder (https://www.youtube.com/@MiaMulder) Don’t care for philosophy? Some history for you.

Thank you for checking in. I really do need more kindness in my life. It wasn’t a personal post. I used myself as an example, and transphobia, so it wouldn’t be totally abstract. There’s a comment here that says what I wanted to express in a more direct way.

My intended audience likes to lurk in these spaces and pop in to offer academic arguments when people are talking about their very real lives. Psychologically, I’d say they get dissonance from reading something and comment to deal with it.

You are right about my intention. We do make mistakes. I actually believe we have to if we want to progress, but not at the expense of other people.

Thank you for this comment. It’s a very clean explanation.

TW: examples of transphobic discourse

I thought using a specific example would be better than using X, but I’m not so sure anymore.

Think about internalized transphobia. Internalized anything actually. It doesn’t matter who you are. Being a trans person won’t make one immune. For some people, in some cases, simply making they aware of their behavior is enough to bring a change, although it’s potentially something really ingrained.

You can be genuinely nice and be a bigot, that’s why I would say treating with the same respect and dignity is not always enough. The sameness is the issue. You in particular might adapt to everyone, but, in my experience, people are much more literal.