• Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee
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    8 months ago

    My bi partner is still slightly annoyed that she’s had to settle for a man because none of the lesbians wanted to be with a bi girl.

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      8 months ago

      I have a bi ex who broke up with me because she knew her lesbian friend group would ostracize her for dating a man. The queer community can be incredibly discriminatory against the bi part of itself

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        The queer community can be incredibly discriminatory against the bi part of itself

        Or the trans part of itself. Or the questioning part of itself. Or probably the lesbian and gay parts, let alone the +. It sucks, but it turns out queer folks are just, well… Folks. So we gotta work on that.

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        8 months ago

        Yeah my partner and brother are both bi and there is a strong sense that they’re being made to pick a side. I have no problems with her having a girlfriend in addition. Honestly it’d be good for her, but I also think she wouldn’t be terribly successful going into it with a male partner and several kids. Maybe with other bi women but they’d probably think she was unicorn hunting.

      • EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        8 months ago

        It’s always been the case unfortunately. Biphobia is as rampant among the LGBT community as homophobia is in the world at large. All the things that homophobes do to gay men, they’ll happily turn around and do to bi men.

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        8 months ago

        My aunt once told my (then) 10 year old sister to “just marry a man you can stand”. We keep wondering when aunt Wendy is going to kill her husband. He’s a dick.

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          “just marry a man you can stand”

          My uncle in law married the first woman who would have him. He didn’t think long or hard about it, just thought that to be the most expedient and simple. Thought that all women were good and kind and reasonable people like his mother and sisters.

          She’s been a complete demon to him, totally solipsistic and money-obsessed, and is not only working him into an early grave but is also stressing him out such that he looks like he’s in his late-eighties. He’s only 64.

          Never took to the idea of sex outside of marriage or an LTR (= min. 6 months, usually 12 or more), but daaaaaang… people need to percolate more before filtering down into a cup.

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        I’m not saying she feels like she settled, just that I wouldn’t have met her in the first place if she had been accepted by any of the women who she met before me. Candy’s loss though.

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          My bi partner is still slightly annoyed that she’s had to settle

          I wouldn’t have met her in the first place if she had been accepted by any of the women who she met before me.

          I understand that I know nothing of your life. And I’m sure it’s going fine. But the way you’re framing it while defending the relationship seems like you need to have a bit more of a talk about it.