• DaBabyAteMaDingo@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    The girl on the right is fucking hot. The comic is for girls that do not look like her but think they do 😂

    I think all women are beautiful but if you can’t live up to these strict standards, it’s not the end of the world.

      • asteriskeverything@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        It’s to show playfulness and that the artist doesn’t feel THAT strongly, imagine how cold the comic would be without it.

        And then consider that women have been raised to be polite and apologetic to the point it is even a habit for most of us. I guess that’s why I can’t really see it as cringe even if I try.

    • rollingflower@lemmy.kde.social
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      5 months ago

      Let me guess, as an average lemmy user the chances are pretty high you are a white male in early adulthood, probably living off a very concerning diet but not gaining weight because of some genetical inability to build up fat.

      Like, thats me, but I am aware of it. People can get fat if they eat as much as I do, which is not even much. Get a hold of your privileges dude.

      • Gabu@lemmy.ml
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        5 months ago

        People can get fat if they eat as much as I do

        Then its up to those people to fucking get out of their asses and exercise. It’s one thing to be fat because of a health issue like hypothyroidism, and a whole different thing to choose being fat. In either case, you can’t really demand people to think an unhealthy, droopy and blobby body is beautiful, all you can ask is for people to not be rude about it.

        Here’s a very apt comparison: I suffer from hyperhidrosis, a condition which makes me sweat 100% of the time regarless of temperature. Which do you think more reasonable: that I wear deodorant, refresh myself and shower often; or that I demand people to live with and enjoy my body odour?

        • can@sh.itjust.works
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          5 months ago

          It’s one thing to be fat because of a health

          I’d argue it’s a mental health issue.

          • TheCheddarCheese@lemmy.worldEnglish
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            5 months ago

            Hypothyroidism happens when the thyroid gland doesn’t make enough thyroid hormone

            yup, sounds very psychological to me

            also like… a mental health issue is also a health issue?

            • can@sh.itjust.works
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              5 months ago

              That’s not what I meant. I understand what hypohyroidism is. I just meant overweight people without something physical like that are probably going through something mentally. Is that controversial?

        • SimplyATable@lemmy.world
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          5 months ago

          Diet is the major part of it, you don’t burn a ton or calories through exercise to be honest. You need to be working from a deficit to get anywhere

      • Yuki@kutsuya.dev
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        5 months ago

        I’m actually a 31 year old female living together with my bf and cat. I’m going to the gym about 2 to 3 times a week since a few months. My bmi at this moment is 24.1 which is still quite high but I’m getting there.

        All I did was say fat. If that offended you, go to the gym.

        • BCsven@lemmy.ca
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          5 months ago

          BMI is kinda bogus, it doean’t take into account muscle vs fat. At peak working out with small waist, but visible muscle mass my chart BMI was Obese

          • Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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            5 months ago

            I agree about BMI often being a bad measurement. Even my own doctors ignore it on me because my BMI is well into the obese range and yet every other measurement of health is in the healthy range, most well into it. My body fat for instance is just below 30%, which is perfectly healthy for a woman. My waist line is well into healthy range as well. Additionally, all my tests such as blood tests come back more than healthy and show that I’m not at risk for any obesity related conditions. Of course, I don’t look like the standard “healthy” body most people imagine a woman should have. I would look fat to anyone who doesn’t know the full picture.
            That’s why I always hated that whole thing people say that “If you’re BMI is high and you’re still healthy it’ll be really obvious.” People just assume that high BMI and healthy means muscular, when you can have a normal body fat percentage as well as other measurements but still have a high BMI.
            This is even ignoring the fact that even when you are genuinely obese and unhealthy, it often stems from body image issues in the first place. The same way a depressed person often goes “I’m doing everything wrong anyway so why bother even trying?” A fat person often is having the struggle of “I’m ugly anyway so why even bother trying to be pretty and healthy? Healthy just means I gotta live longer being ugly.” That’s why berating people for being fat usually doesn’t work. It just makes them feel worse and reinforces that idea they already have that they’re too ugly to bother. Sure, some people it might kick into gear to try their best to lose weight to prove they’re not ugly, but that’s the difference between somebody who still has hope and somebody that’s already lost it all.

            • BCsven@lemmy.ca
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              5 months ago

              Yep agreed. I had a laugh when we got our Wii sports, and the weigh-in made my Mii fat, which didn’t represent my shape. But a bad UX from Nintendo on that.

  • owenfromcanada@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    5 months ago

    I’ve been in so many wholesome communities, I initially thought the first panel was a thinly veiled pickup line.

    • Juice@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      Yeah it’s a bummer. When I left twitter for mastodon there was a full 180° from the attitudes people had. Unfortunately it seems that the outrage/negativity algorithm has trained Redditors too well to break those bad habits.

      • Cowbee [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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        5 months ago

        It’s usually the ones coming straight from Reddit into Lemmy.world, if you go to a less generalist instance it’s usually a lot better.

        .world is just Reddit 2, in terms of culture.

    • feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      I just don’t find obese women attractive, a little 胖乎乎的婴儿肥 is one thing, but not a serious health condition.

      • Dojan@lemmy.world
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        5 months ago

        We all have our own attractions, that’s fine. However, people don’t have to meet our standards of beauty to exist and take part in society.

        • feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world
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          5 months ago

          Okay, but let’s stop the creeping cultural psychosis and acknowledge it as a massive health crisis that some people have a fetish for.

          • Dojan@lemmy.world
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            5 months ago

            Oh yeah, absolutely. I’m not saying that obesity is good, but I also don’t think we can judge people for it. If someone is learning how to love themselves, who are we to stand in their way for it?

            Maybe they need that self love to push them forward and lose that weight? Maybe not. Regardless I don’t think telling people how they should or shouldn’t dress will bring anyone any sort of good.

            It’s that old saying “if you don’t have anything good to say, perhaps don’t say anything at all.”

    • Cowbee [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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      5 months ago

      Most of the negative comments are from Lemmy.world users, which is the instance that recieves the bulk of the Reddit crowd before the users find a more fitting instance.

      Lemmy.world tends to attract people from Reddit that are too ideological to stay, but want the same thing as Reddit without the enshittification, so they go to the largest generalist instance first. Over time, some leave for more specialized instances, like Beehaw, Lemmy.ml, programming.dev, or blahaj.zone, so that leaves .world usually with newer accounts, or people who just want Reddit 2 before it went to shit.

      Not saying everyone from .world is bad, of course not, but what drives users to .world over more niche instances is usually coming straight from Reddit.

      • dev_null@lemmy.ml
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        5 months ago

        I joined Lemmy.ml because it looked like the largest generalist instance plus apparently ran by Lemmy developers. Here you list it as a specialist one. Well, I couldn’t have known at the time. :D

        • Cowbee [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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          5 months ago

          It’s a bit of both! It’s an older instance, but it is focused on FOSS and Privacy. It isn’t extremely specialized, of course, but it is not a pure generalist instance either.

      • danciestlobster@lemm.ee
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        5 months ago

        Wait I am in this comment I left reddit and joined world then wanted to switch to a different one so just joined .ee arbitrarily. Is there a short reference somewhere of how these are all different from each other?

        • SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works
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          5 months ago

          Unfortunately you only get a good overview by being here a long time and paying a bit of attention to the seasonal drama. The biggest pointers, to my knowledge, would be that a lot of instances are defederated with lemmygrad and hexbear (but not all), because otherwise the bad faith campism and trolling gets unbearable, world is defederated with the piracy instance, and virtually every large server is defederated with “free speech absolutists” who let their instances fester with far right types.

        • Cowbee [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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          5 months ago

          Here is a good spot to pick an Instance. You can stay with .ee if you want, but I recommend picking a new instance that fits what you personally prefer! You can also check what instances are federated with which other instances. For example, .world isn’t federated with Lemmygrad or Hexbear, but .ml is federated with all 3, so you may wish to change your instance accordingly.

          • danciestlobster@lemm.ee
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            5 months ago

            Where do I see who is federated with who? Couldn’t find it from that link. Would def prefer one that is federated with a broad scope of others

            • Cowbee [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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              5 months ago

              You can find it in the server list at the bottom of the website. Lemm.ee is pretty broad, as are most of the top instances.

              Defederation isn’t a bad thing. .world isn’t federated with Hexbear and Lemmygrad because .world doesn’t like Marxist-Leninists, for example, so it can help keep an audience curated.

              • PopOfAfrica@lemmy.world
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                5 months ago

                That’s just incorrect. I’m a Marxist and to just fine here. Communist does not equal tankie, which Hexbear is full of.

                • Cowbee [he/him]@lemmy.ml
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                  5 months ago

                  What separates a “tankie” from a Marxist-Leninist? Is it just vibes? I got called a tankie for recommending a “leftist” to read Marx, specifically Critique of the Gotha Programme. Said leftist thought that the biggest factor of Capitalism is the employee-employer relationship, which is of course ridiculous, as that would mean feudalism is Capitalist, or even Market Socialism.

                  Since I get to see a lot of hexbear posts and comments as a lemmy.ml account, I can genuinely say that the biggest distinction between hexbear and lemmy.world, besides the fact that hexbear is explicitly leftist, is that hexbear users love to combat liberals and liberalism, often dogpiling on anti-communist takes, which .world sees as disruptive.

              • SatansMaggotyCumFart@lemmy.world
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                5 months ago

                It’s not that .world doesn’t like Marxist-Leninists, it’s that Hexbear likes to doglike over everything and well you can tell a lot about Lemmygrad by its name.

        • undefinedValue@programming.dev
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          5 months ago

          Someone once posted a graphic showing how each instance leaned politically and I thought it was pretty useful. Some more important distinctions between them are censorship, many will censor bad words or content they find objectionable and I just couldn’t tolerate how dumb that was so I picked a fairly anarchist anything goes instance.

  • baseless_discourse@mander.xyz
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    5 months ago

    I feel like these cloth are the prefect match for the body type on the right. There are many clothes that might not fit the person the the right (also many wouldn’t fit the person on the left), but the ones in the comics are not these cloth.

  • Bobmighty@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I would have been that boyfriend. I always saw women like the right as more attractive and sexual than women like the left. It would infuriate a couple of my friends because I was a pretty boy who had the attention of women they found more appropriate, but I could never get them to understand that those women were like background extras to me in dating terms. It’s not even something I willfully do, it just feels natural and correct to want a bbw vixen.

  • pH3ra@lemmy.ml
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    5 months ago

    If you have a comeback this weak in the comic YOU drew, I don’t want to imagine the amount of cringe your friends felt around you

  • IsoSpandy@lemm.ee
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    5 months ago

    Hey mods… Ever heard of free speech? People can have opinions… Let people decide by upvotes and down votes. Why the unnecessary censoring?