Online friend group drama has gone full batshit and is affecting my own mental health. Time to log off and just try and take a break from there. :/
so many hugs, listen to nice music instead 🤗😘
Sometimes, in a split second I get this kind of sadness when I see something.
I saw a guy with his son and he was showing him how to fill the car with petrol.
Nothing special. Unless you’ve never really had a father. Then you think about all the other stuff you had to learn by yourself; like shaving, driving, finding your first job and hundreds of other small things you don’t normally think about.
I suppose there’s pride in having navigated from age 14 till 41 by yourself. But it’s a poor 2nd place prize.
Sorry for the downer.
I felt this with some of the dads at my old workplace. Hearing them having to leave on time to go watch a game or going to a 9 day fortnight so they could spend more time with their kids. I kinda teared up for a bit thinking about how my dad never bothered. If he picked me up he was often late and I once spent 90 minutes waiting on the kerb (in the day before mobiles). The only time he ever came for an accomplishment of mine - the highest one I ever had - he made it all about himself and was a total embarrassment.
It must hit a lot harder as a man. Hugs
I’m sorry you went through that. I really am.
I saw a lot of that when I worked in manual labour. These guys were rough around the edges but they genuinely cared about their families and would do anything to make sure they were safe, happy and secure.
The way they talked about their kids, you could tell deep down they loved them. Even if they had this tough guy exterior.
Sometimes I tear up when I see families in public having fun and just being happy together. Lucky I always wear sunnies outside.
so many many hugs. Yes, your achievements are yours.
I’m a little older than you and am still finding out all the things I should know but don’t, things that an interested parent would have taught.
But I did get taught a whole load of shitty baggage.
Thank you ❤️
Yeah that last part I know all too well. I’m so fucking grateful that I’m nothing like my father. I learned early that he was bad. But it took a hell of a lot of work and effort to correct the bullshit he instilled in me.
I feel this so, so hard. I can usually ignore things in real life, but I don’t watch family movies or shows very much because they make me feel the same way, and if I ever do something or have an experience that feels like my idea of normalcy I end up in a euphoric like state for a few hours before crashing really hard and ending up really sad for the next few days
I think you deserve all the hugs in the world for having to feel that way 🫂 That’s heartbreaking. I know you can’t do anything about how it all is and you’re unbelievably bright and level-headed and observant for all you’ve been through, but I hope so much you do find your own family when you become independent and get some of those happy family vibes in your real life. The physical feeling of belonging and security is absolutely unmatched. May you get to experience that for real with good people who will be there for you :D
so many super hugs
I get that feeling from “normalcy” too, then I see the dysfunctional fam and have to tone down my normal.
I’m the same with any family related media. It just hurts. I know about that euphoric state you’re talking about. For me, they happen when I succeed at something I’ve been working hard at. I feel really good for a while, then the thoughts of “wish I had a family (that’s average) to celebrate with”.
All my victories are silent.
I lie to people when ask me about my family. I made up a story about how they are all overseas. Stops the weird vibe that happens when you tell the truth.
My duo bird is now sending me countdowns
I would do duolingo but they don’t do mandarin with traditional characters ( my duolingo looked as bad as a neglected tamagotchi )
so I’ve looked up some other apps. 👍
thank you for the prompt :)
and good luck with your streak :)
I can’t seem to make a post with both an URL and a separate picture. I’m sure I’ve done it before, not sure why I can’t do it now.
Miss Meow says it is definitely dinner time right now and is claiming my explanation about changing clocks to be an unfounded conspiracy theory.
My phone screen contrast is low due to being in night mode and MissMeow looks rather creepy and eyeless… truly like staring into the void.
Enjoy.
Oh, I gotcha fam
My apologies Miss Meow, but it had to be done!
Miss Meow has seen the photo additions and is not impressed. She has requested to look scary with big teeth instead.
This whole thread 😹😹😹
OCD chillo sorting achieved.
I am very interested in the small mid right ones. The cultivar is old, no longer common, sweet and fuckn’ hawt:
Gawd I’m starting to sound crazy.
I like that the chopping board and the colander tone in with all the glorious red. It all looks amazing.
those are birds eye aren’t they?
i slept amazingly well and i am so glad i washed my winter blanket yesterday
I’ve been awake since 3 tossing and turning ,🙃
sleep god likes warmth, turn the fan off
Nooo I sleep very hot. I need it cold
I have a fan running 24/7/365. It technically doubles as a heater, but the heater elements have had a lot of dust and lint accrue on them that I can’t remove, so it starts smoking if I use it as one. So it’s fan only
Woke up early naturally… what a strange feeling! Taking the right dose of melatonin - 0.3g now that I actually have it in that dose - seems to be a huge difference compared to 1g.
Gonna be taking a long v/line ride to go look at a car today. It better be worth it!
Was it worth it, JK? How far did you have to go?
I went as far as Traaaalgon. It was sort of 50% worth it. I learned something
Got my new shoes, got my haircut and saw my doctor. Time to go home and relax.
Fairly productive day all things considered.
ffs, I forgot to put the sweet taters in the oven
Microwave
I’m going to get my roast veg in the oven, and then I’m going to have a luxurious hot shower followed by cozy jim jams
Who wants tomorrows thread - friday April 12, 2024?
I’ll make it if I look in later and it doesn’t exist. It’s only 10pm my time.
The kiwi daily thread is just “anyone make the thread if it doesn’t exist yet” - seems to work fine.
Alright. You’ve got tonights. I’ll stop asking ahead of time
I’ll do it if I wake up in two hours thinking it’s 10am
I’m dusty and frazzled from my unexpectedly hyper extended trip thanks to trespassers on the track and my overall confusion around inspecting a car and trying to decide what can slide and what’s risky. I get different answers from different people about how important documented logbook servicing is.
Folks with a working class background tell me it’s not everything if it clears a pre purchase inspection and drives ok, and won’t impact resale value that much, plenty of people just get their mates to do the servicing and it’s turned out fine. Everyone else is like no way… rather even take a similar car with some aesthetic panel damage if it’s got a solid logbook.
Don’t forget radar cruise (if it’s available at that budget, not sure)
Hahaha hahaha absolutely zero chance of it being available at the budget I’m after! That was very nice to enjoy when I had my work car. But well out of my range with car prices being what they are. Right now I just need an affordable old thing to do basic commutes and a few weekend drives over the next year or two and then I might pass it onto a young relative.
My “real” car spend will likely be in 2-3 years time.
Log books, particularly logs where the owner paid for the service tell you that regular maintenance mattered to the owner. It’s an indicator that the car has been cared for and looked after.
But they aren’t everything. And their lack doesn’t say that the owner didn’t look after the car.
That’s the thing with the second point, it’s hard to decide whether it was just the owner being negligent or just looked after it in other ways.
However, adding onto the fact that it was an ex-auction car before this person bought it… and then left the country and has got her mum to handle selling it… is really adding up to some ???
Please guys remember to post your meals on !foodaustralia@aussie.zone. I just had someone from Spain post which is pretty cool. Special thanks to @bull@aussie.zone and @PeelerSheila@aussie.zone for their regular contributions.
Oh that’s excellent. I always feel like who wants to see boring “meat and veg” type meals all the time so I don’t really post frequently.
Same here, then when I cook something exciting I forget to take a pic
I like checking it out anyway - gives me ideas.
Getting ideas from others is exactly why I created the sub.
It doesn’t matter if there’s no pic. Just describing what you’re gonna have is enough:)
Same🤝
We’ve had Americans, Kiwis etc post. They love what we eat. The more the merrier.
Tonight tackling the pile.
Seed collection, making flakes/dust, fermenting and trying not to rub eyes or no no bits
Only fermenting the really little ones as they’re unique for some reason and I need to see what happens.
But… planning on collecting a lot of the seeds, so if anyone wants any, lemmy know if you Want it (they last for years).
Which brings us to today’s rave choon:
😻
gloves
I didn’t know capsicums and chillies could ferment
