What is it about the text messages and emails sent by older people that make me feel like I’m having a stroke?

Maybe they’re used to various shortcuts in their writing that they picked up before autocorrect became common, but these habits are too idiosyncratic for autocorrect to handle properly. However, that doesn’t explain the emails I’ve had to decipher that were typed on desktop keyboards. Has anyone else younger than 45 or so felt similarly frustrated with geriatrics’ messages?

@asklemmy

  • originalfrozenbanana@lemm.ee
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    3 months ago

    And why do old people randomly capitalize nouns? Every Sentence reads like the just read the Written Word for the first time and wanted to give It a Try For Themselves

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      I’m not as old as OP mentioned, but sometimes I’ll do it when it’s a word that’s commonly abbreviated or part of a title. Like “Original Poster”.

      I’ve had a couple people ask me if I’m German, but no, I just like some of their ideas on capitalization.

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      For me. That’s usually autocorrect. If it decides a typo such as accidenta double-space means the end of one sentence, then capitalizes a word, it’s below my threshold to go back and fix. You shouldn’t be confused by random. Apitalization and letter skips from autocorrect, but I’ll correct it when it’s autocorrect sped to to something. Different like this last sentence where it looks like I’m having a stroke

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      3 months ago

      In 18th century English they did the same Thing. German too. Nouns were more important

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      My Android keyboard will automatically capitalize lots of common words like target, guess, even-- shit it’s not doing it now, it heard me thinking. I guess it’s brands, but some of them I don’t recognize. I’m going to be mad if it starts doing it again as soon as I leave this thread.

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        This happens to me when I add a word to the dictionary but it happened to be the first word of a sentence at the time I added it, so it got capitalized and now the dictionary thinks it’s a proper noun

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      This is the accepted writing style at my work, and it’s been driving me nuts for years. I’m talking about the copy we put on all our public facing materials. Even our resident linguists hate it, but apparently someone high up thinks it’s industry standard.

      Remembering this just made me happier to be leaving soon. They’re so resistant to challenging entrenched habits. I should have seen these signs when I started.

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        I always capitalize words that locally mean something specific and technical. Like the Group a Record is associated with in the Student table.

        Do you mean things like that? Or just capitalizing all Nouns for no Reason or Something silly?

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          Similar to that. Nouns that have a somewhat specific meaning in our business context, like Investor, Adviser, Product, Portfolio, etc.

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    Younger than 45

    Oh OK that actually makes sense.

    45 year olds and above are digital immigrants. In short, they had an off-line childhood and an online adulthood. They have different speech and writing patterns to you because they learnt and communicated in a different way to you.

    Assuming you’re under 45, this won’t make sense, because you’ve never experienced a world which doesn’t have this sort of interaction. You’re a digital native, digital tech has always been there.

    In twenty years time, children born or educated after the advent of chat gpt will have the same problem understanding you. The way you write, post and interact will seem clunky and old fashioned. It’s already happening!

    The wonderful thing about humanity, tho, is that we adapt and adopt! Consider this - everyone over the age of 50 had to learn something completely new to them in order to be able to communicate with you like this. They used to just talk or write letters. That’s it.

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      Take into account that those 45 and older were the ones with disposable income when the internet took off

      We fuckin invented the digital world, and memes too!

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        Not sure who the “we” is in your post but Imo the biggest influence on meme culture was 4chan and similar dumpster fire communities of the early/adolescent Internet.

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            We’re kinda schizophrenic; working normal jobs during the day, but a part of our mind is still a snarky, sarcastic shitposter with a truly horrific sense of humour lol

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    3 months ago

    All of my kids messages are super short or emoji filled, my wife, friends and older contacts all text to text me full paragraphs or sentences.

    Need some examples

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      Sounds like you’re a millennial with gen alpha kids. The latest generation is struggling to read and write, while millennials are the best typists

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    Assuming you’re under 45, this won’t make sense, because you’ve never experienced a world

    Wrong. 45 is '78/'79. You can easily run up to '85 on the analogue migration

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    My mother would mistype and just accept whatever word was substituted in the autocorrect. So I’d receive messages like “what’s times area your striving art under Stevens’s on Saturdays”. Then I’d have to ring her, on the off chance she answered (only turned the phone on when expecting a call), so there wasn’t any point texting in the first place.

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    It’s about as annoying as young people abandoning any and all punctuation entirely. The amount of people that will write an entire paragraph and not use a single period is obscene. If you can’t bother to organize your thoughts in the most minimal way, I’m going to assume you have nothing of worth to say and just won’t read it. And frankly, if what you’re saying is so boiler plate you don’t need punctuation, then you really don’t have anything to add, so probably just shouldn’t.

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      It’s about as annoying as young people abandoning any and all punctuation entirely the amount of people that will write an entire paragraph and not use a single period is obscene if you can’t bother to organize your thoughts in the most minimal way I’m going to assume you have nothing of worth to say and just won’t read it and frankly, if what you’re saying is so boiler plate you don’t need punctuation then you really don’t have anything to add so probably just shouldn’t

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        Its about as annoying as young people abandoning any and all punctuation entirely the amount of people that will write an entire paragraph and not use a single period is obscene if you cant bother to organize your thoughts in the most minimal way Im going to assume you have nothing of worth to say and just wont read it and frankly if what you’re saying is so boiler plate you dont need punctuation then you really dont have anything to add so probably just shouldnt

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    What? Who are you communicating with, and what shortcuts are you talking about? I text with my kids and they use more shortcuts and abbreviations than I do.

    In work emails, I try to think of the recipient when writing them. Some people are chattier and prefer a nice introduction and thorough explanation, but my boss likes to just see messages like:

    Posted on 13-May, thanks.

    So if that’s what you are talking about maybe you just have a more social communication style.

    Though I will say my husband uses the ominous ellipses too often, like…

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      All the younger people I text with use more acronyms and abbreviations than I do. I even spell out okay.

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    Has anyone else younger than 45 or so felt similarly frustrated with geriatrics’ messages?

    What always makes me laugh about posts like this is the knowledge that soon you too will hit that terrible 45 and become “geriatric”. Your text messages and emails (how quaint) will suddenly become incomprehensible and everyone will claim you are giving them a stroke just by existing <rolls eyes>.

    The clock is ticking… faster than you think.

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      That’s an incredibly bad faith reading.

      Anyone younger than 45 is going to have greater digital exposure and be more adept at electronic communication. The older you are, the less likely you are to be frustrated with how geriatrics communicate because the more familiar pre-digital communication styles will be to you.

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        I’m well aware that I’m somebody else’s elder. I meant it matter-of-factly, like “geriatric pregnancy”.

        a) You made a gross generalization that cannot be attributed to a particular age group in a consistent, reproducible manner. “Old” in itself is of course an imprecise term use primarily in relative terms.
        b) If as you assert, then you used the term incorrectly. The commonly accepted medical definition of “geriatric” is 65 years or older. When used in a general way to mean “aged” it is not “matter-of-fact” but a generalization and by it’s nature relative.

        What you really mean is “people older than me that I find annoying” similar to “boomer” or, in your case, your specific non-factual and colloquial use of “geriatric”.

        IOW, attributing your annoyance to some vague age group is roughly as ridiculous as attributing your annoyance to the color T-shirt someone is wearing. Or what country they come from, race they are… etc etc etc. It’s a pointless, meaningless, and often highly localized stereotype.

        It’s not the attributes of the person, it’s the behavior.

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          I’ve observed the same thing. The phenomenon is real, even if it’s a generalization. How would you communicate this idea in a polite way? “A certain way of communicating by text that is predominantly displayed by the geriatric population”?

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            “A certain way of communicating by text that is predominantly displayed by the geriatric population”

            You don’t. It’s still a pointless unprovable stereotype.

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              Is it really unprovable? A quick search online for me reveals a lot of spilled pixels on the subject of how age is correlated with communication styles in various media. I think Gretchen McCulloch wrote about this even.

              I don’t see why it’s bad to talk about these things. I’ll admit, OP’s language here was rather inflammatory. But some people say what you’re saying regarding ebonics, yet AAVE has become one of the biggest fields in linguistics today. “Stereotype” doesn’t necessarily mean “problematic to acknowledge.”

        • @enbyecho @asklemmy Well, geriatric pregnancies start at age 35, so it’s really a flexible adjective. If you took it incorrectly, that’s on you.

          Based on the mixed responses I’m getting, it is not an established stereotype that older people write emails and text messages poorly. If I knew it was then I wouldn’t have asked if others had similar experiences to mine in the first place.

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    3 months ago

    “Couldn’t reply to message on Lemmy, was written like it was typed on a keyboard. Literally can’t right now. Too many words.”

    What an asshole.

    • @MissJinx @asklemmy I wasn’t sure of the right word to use. Geriatric seemed correct enough. To be clear, I don’t think there’s anything especially wrong or bad about my elders. I just think there might be some kind of technological and cultural collision happening that makes me feel like I’m crazy sometimes.

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        Oh boy, I’m an “Elder” now. Gonna go kill myself realy quick

        hahaha jokes aside I see your point. I’m full time online so I don’t have a problem but yes, I only had internet when I was 12yo and smartphones when I was past 25yo so we really don’t have the same education. Someone that is not online all the tine will have a hard time keeping up.

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          I don’t think that the internet even existed when I was 12 as anything other than dial-up modems and a collection of bulletin board systems. It wasn’t until I was in college that the ‘modern’ internet came online. I didn’t have my first “smart” phone–and I’m using that term very loosely–until I was in my 30s.

          I also remember when Windows 3.1 came out, and oh boy, that was neat! Suddenly I didn’t have to program batch files to configure memory in order to play games!