I am bad. Not terrible, but, I deserve all the bad things happening me because I’m not a good person. Now I think there’s worse things than being a bad person in this world but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m bad.

  • Zachariah@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I deserve all the bad things happening me

    No you don’t. You do deserve living with and processing feelings of remorse about what you’ve done. You can give yourself a pass on things you think but don’t act on. Mostly, you deserve the grueling task of changing to become a better person.

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      4 months ago

      This is what is called a shame spiral. How do you get out of it? As this reply said give yourself a pass. Being able to identify negative self-talk is the first step to being able to lift yourself out of it. For me learning to identify and exit the spiral of shame has had a huge positive effect on my mental health and made existence more tolerable.